boyfriend vs new guy, who to pick??

Question

sry its long, i rele need help

i have a boyfriend, next month will b 6 months for us- but we really dont have anything in common. he is shy, im out going and crazy.
i met a guy a month ago. i found out last week that he liked me, which i already knew. this guy and i have a lot more in common than my boyfriend and i do. but i haven't known him as long as my boyfriend, so mayb this nu guy and i dont really. i dont know. also, ive been told this guy is more attractive than my boyfriend (i really dont know though)
i told this nu guy today that i had a boyfriend, and he was okay with it- but he is still flirty with me. my boyfriend knows all about this new guy, and he doesn't see what the big deal is.
i feel really guilty when i catch myself thinking about how much better it could be w/ a boyfriend i had more in common w/. my boyfriend is amazing, but his shyness gets in the way sometimes. this nu guy is just like me, fun and outgoing.
what do u think? did i do the rt thing?

1, my bf doesnt love me, and told me he may nvr love me
2, my bf and i fight all the time
3, i really like my bf- i just wonder if having stuff in common is important in a relationship- can a relationship last if the people in it cant find something to talk about?

and ive told my bf he deserves better b4, and ive told him all of this already.
he said he doesn't have an opinion- which is y i posted the question. plus al lmy friends r telling me different things.

Answer 1

You sound too young to be in a committed relationship. There is no way any one so young can be expected to stay true to just one person. You probably have 60 more years to live, think about it. Right now is the time to learn new things and get to know different people. By this, I do not mean being wild and crazy and irresponsible. Give yourself time to grow and to venture new experiences, this way by the time you are ready to settle down with just one person you will already have had all of this behind you. Believe when I say, you will not be ready to get into a committed relationship until at least 30 years of age. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

The grass always looks greener on the other side- the only problem is, it usually isn't. It sounds like the only reason you're more attracted to the new guy is that you think you have more in common (but aren't really sure) and that your boyfriend is too shy sometimes. Try bringing your boyfriend out of his shell a bit or do new activities together that neither of you have really done before- you might find a shared interest there. It's normal to wonder sometimes about whether or not you'd be better off with someone else, but it's almost always a bad idea to act on those thoughts. My best friend left her long term boyfriend three times in one year for another guy (each time a different guy) but each time she did it, she realized it wasn't really what she wanted. Luckily her boyfriend loved her enough and was strong enough emotionally to take her back each time, and now they are happily engaged. Moral of the story- if you're reasonably happy with what you have, don't leave it on a whim for something else that may or may not be better.

Answer 3

you're definitely showing signs of insecurity. It's not your boyfriend. It's not this new guy. It's you. You are one of those who "won't settle for anything." Meaning, even though you are with your boyfriend, and things are good, you still want to find a certain quality in someone else to fit your needs. Guess what? You're NEVER going to find that "perfect" guy who fits ALL your needs.
So, if your boyfriend doesn't fit your needs, then he is not the one. If this other guy fits your needs, then he's the one......for now until you decide you don't like something about him and then search somewhere else.
It's a classic thing. It's called the "relationship of convenience". Your boyfriend is shy, this other guy isn't. It's quite convenient to run to this other guy. Then, someday, this other guy may do something you don't like. Then, it'll be "convenient" to run to someone else.
Dig deep inside you and rethink the situation. What drew you to your boyfriend anyways? Obviously it's more than just him being shy. Besides, running to another guy just because your boyfriend is shy is pretty lame.

Answer 4

You sound really immature. How many relationships have you been in? "also, ive been told this guy is more attractive than my boyfriend (i really dont know though)". What are you saying? You mean to tell me because other people tell you the new guy is cuter, that makes you think of dumping him for the new guy? You really should get your priorities straight! Maybe you should go after the new guy. Chances are you WOULD be perfect together, and maybe he will do to you what you are thinking of doing to your boyfriend now, but most importantly, you could let your current boyfriend find someone who actually appreciates him instead of constantly thinking about other people! Poor guy! There should be a "GIRLS NOT TO DATE LIST" and you should be on it!

Answer 5

well basically you don't like your boyfriend beacuse you are thinking of going out with this new guy so just leave him and date the new guy but he'll probably think that you never really never liked him so i recommend that you wait a while before dating the other guy. Also think about the guy that you are with eventhough hes shy he might be the one and once you guys break up hell find somebody else and you might think to yourself "what did i do?" nobody can really give you advise because we are not you and dont now or understand what you are feeling but good luck though.

Answer 6

I don't think you are all into your boyfriend. I love my boyfriend and even if Brad Pitt came knocking at my door I wouldn't want to be with him because I think my boyfriend is the best. It seems like you are just with your boyfriend because it is comfortable and you don't want to be alone, but if anyone that you percieve to be slightly better that your BF comes along you want to let him go. It's not really fair to your boyfriend or to yourself. Just figure out what you want.. Maybe you should even just choose no one and take a few months alone to get intune with your feelings rather than just jumping into another relationship.

Answer 7

well u would look bad if u jumped in 1 hour from one boy to another, let the bf get another shot at u. ur bad at long term realtionships ...kinda can tell. also u dont know this "nu" guy.

Answer 8

i dated a girl much more outgoing than myself and she left me for that same reason, i wasn't as outgoing as she was. bottom line, outgoing people need and craze the constant aproval of those around them. if people around you are telling you you'd be better off with someone else you might as well just give in now to make them happy because you will do it eventually. so don't worry about it, once you've established the need for aproval it's easier to do whatever it takes to get it. besides, it's obvious your personal hapiness isn't really at stake here so just listen to the group.

Answer 9

If you are willing to risk a boy that loves you for someone that will have to learn to love you then that is your prerogative. Looks are not everything in this world. Those are the ones who would really hurt you or hit on you. Think about it.

Answer 10

If you're even considering leaving your bf for a crush perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship. It sounds harsh, but think about everyone involved, especially your bf