What do you do when the guy you love most in the world doesn't believe most of the things you say? I have to say though I have given him a lot of reasons not to believe it... What should I do?
2007-03-19 09:05:45 · 13 answers · asked by Sarah C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you have given him in your words " a lot of reasons not to believe it", your honesty in stating this fact is much appreciated. So I too will be straight with you, you have given him reason to mistrust what you say but you want him to believe MOST of the things you say. You got to get him to believe ALL of the things you say.....so you now have to prove yourself....Tough spot to be in....but you can only accomplish this by being 100% truthful to him. He will begin to see that you are not fudging him, telling a little white lie and slowly (very slowly) you will regain his trust. Good luck....
2007-03-19 09:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have given him a lot of reasons to not trust you then you are going to have to bust your butt earning that trust back. The only thing you can do is continue to be honest with him ALL THE TIME. No matter what. Eventually the trust will return. It takes a lot longer to rebulid trust than it does to build it in the first place so it might take a while. Just be patient and be honest 100% of the time and it will work out.
Also though, it is not fair for him to punish you forever for things you have done in the past. If he has chosen to forgive you than he should forgive you. While you are working on earning his trust back, he should be working on trusting you too. It's a two-way street.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 09:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Smarty06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it is your fault that he doesn't believe you. Once you lose trust for someone it is very hard to gain that back. So in that aspect it is your fault, and you can't get mad at him for not believing you. He obviously has reasons not to, and that is just him protecting himself from getting hurt. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything. So I will leave you with that, but if you really want him to trust you again, and you want things to work out, you are going to have to be completely honest with him no matter how he will feel about things. It may take awhile, but if you love him, you will work at it! Good Luck!
2007-03-19 09:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short version: "Actions speak louder than words"
Whatever behavior, choices or talk have given him reasons for significant doubt - STOP. Whenever you are tempted to "explain" or "give reasons why" - STOP - don't say anything. Whenever you feel an alibi coming on or realize that what you told him was not true - go back - confess that what you said was not true.
Bottom line: You talk too much and your actions are inconsistent with your words. You are not half as charming as you believe that you are.
2007-03-19 09:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gain his trust back because if you don't have trust in a relationship then their isn't a base to have a relationship. Sit him down and tell him that you may have done things for him not to trust you anymore but you have changed and deserve a second chance to gain his trust.
2007-03-19 09:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by futmexochoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what he dosen't belive my ex cheated on me i found out and broke up with her. i took that emotional bagage into my next relationship it started great but after about 6 months i didn't belive a word she told me i realized what i was doing and got some counciling .............so maybe something similar has happened he may need some help and if you tell him he'll be insulted he'll have to realize he has a problem
2007-03-19 09:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Slamin the clam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've given him reasons not to believe you then you need to change your ways and you will have to start over and gain his trust
2007-03-19 09:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was the right guy,you wouldent be so hard on him.You love him the most,but not enough to stop your ways.Let him go and get on with his life.
2007-03-19 09:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the lies and be all truth he'll appreciate that most and tell him you love him and make it up to him some how
2007-03-19 09:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are insecurities with your man there is very little you can do to bring him along. If you haven't done anything to make him behave like this and you have done everything you can to convince him you are honest then that is all you can do. This is HIS problem not yours.
2007-03-19 09:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋