my parents always fight and I new it was coming, but know I just dont know waht to do. I dont know whats going to happen and how divorce works. I'm scared, i absoltely hate this!!!! help me!!!can u tell me how this is all going yo work and what i can do to feel better about it?
2007-03-19 09:01:39 · 7 answers · asked by rachel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how does divorce actually work?
will i have to move?
2007-03-19 09:25:14 · update #1
To answer how the divorce works, your mom and dad will see a lawyer and they will sign papers saying that they aren't married anymore. Then they go to court and the judge will look over the papers and talk to them for a bit, then he finalizes the divorce - which means the marriage is legally over and they are both single people again. Your mom will probably have you live with her and your dad will come and get you for visits and special occasions. It will be okay, it takes time to get used to this arrangement. And it will help your mom and dad stop fighting and be at peace. They will always love you, never doubt that. And they will be in your life forever. Take care, sweetie.
2007-03-19 09:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be ok. If they are always fighting perhaps that is best for you mom and dad. Your parents will work out the details of the divorce. In the meantime, spend time with your friends and talk to some of your friends that already come from divorced families. Maybe you could go talk with the school counselor about the divorce?
2007-03-19 16:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must always remember that both your parents love you.It is very hard for children of divorce because they feel torn in two. You can't take sides in this situation as your parents have to solve this themselves.Just let them know you love both of them and not to put you in the middle.
It may take awhile but it will work out for all of you. And yes,it's scary because it's all very strange to you right now.
Hopefully your parents will settle down and be friends for your sake.Ask God to help you get through this and he will you know.You have to be strong and it would be a good idea to speak with your guidance counsellor or a minister or other family member who can be there for you and who will understand what you are going through.
I wish you and your family all the best and may God Bless.
2007-03-19 16:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this is something that your parents are going through in their relationship and there isn't much that you can do about that. Let the grown up do their things.
One thing I can assure you is that you're not going to be left behind. Yes it will require change, and that may be difficult at first, but keep in mind that your parents deserve to be happy and have peace of mind. You can tell them your fears, and they should address them, keep in mind though, that they are not perfect, and grown ups mess things up sometimes.
I feel bad for your situation, but know that sometimes you can get a better situation, and as long as they support you, and keep your best interest at hand, things will work out alright. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-19 16:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first, never blame yourself for anything, because it isent your fault, it really isent. my parents got a divorce a while ago, and i mean, yea its rough at times, but we get through it fine. try not to be scared or worried though, because it will only add to stress, just live your life the way you normally do, or as normally as you possibly can , be flexible too, that might help a little bit.just be strong and keep yourself together and be calm, as much as you possibly can. both of your parents love you very much. It isent your fault, they just cant get along any more, and only want the best for you, even tho it might not seem that way at times, but yea, just always know that they both love you soo much, no matter what! good luck=) you'll get through it!
2007-03-19 16:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , sometimes marriages don't work out. U gonna have to live sometimes with your mother then your father. It depends. But keep always in mind they both love u and to feel better always call on them. It's not a nice feeling, but hey I don't know how old you are, but don't ever let this break u down. Keep follow your dreams and keep reaching for the stars. God bless u!
Bye
2007-03-19 16:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Elvis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks...My parents got a divorce three years ago. You just have to know it was for the better...Don't ever feel like it was your fault, because it's not...They decided to get a divorce because they had to...I know how it feels, its tough...Sometimes I still get upset....Use your friends/boyfriends/siblings for help, or a shoulder to cry on...They will help you through this, Thats who helped me!! Best of luck to you, everything will be okay!
2007-03-19 16:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by ~small town girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋