How does a woman tell a man that he needs Viagra? The men I've seen in the past get offended when I say this.

Question

I have had 2 relationships in the past year, 1 man is 54, the other is 52. Both have a problem getting it up & staying hard. When this happened, they got offended & blamed the problem on me. I actually didn't even mention it.
But, I don't want to sleep with someone that can't get it up. I would like to continue the relationship with the older man, but I want to enjoy sex. And, no he doesn't like to please me orally. Even if he did, I would still need the actual intercourse.

Sex is a major part of a relationship to me & that is not something I am willing to ignore.

As I said, I DID NOT mention this topic to these men, they just blamed me for their problem, & I did NOT tell them they needed "a little purple pill". I'm not stupid.

Answer 1

I think it maybe the way you are approaching the subject. Say something like, I love having sex with you and would like to do it more often, a friend of mines husband has been taking Viagra and she says it has improved their sex life. I wonder if you have considered taking it.
This is non threatening to his manhood, and says nothing negative about his sexual prowess.

Answer 2

They might be older men but wiser men they are not so time for you to have a heart to heart discussion about the joys of good sex and how best to achieve it. Might also be a good idea to have one or both of them get a medical check up because there's no reason they cannot engage in healthy sexual activities unless there is a medical condition or emotional issues preventing them from achieving coitus to your satisfaction.

My favorite uncle is in his mid fifties and he tells me that I have a lot to look forward to when I reach his age cause he says sex has never been better or more enjoyable. At 54 he found the perfect lady to explore his passions with and he's never been happier in his life.

Answer 3

Sounds like you need to go to
www.talksexwithsue.com
there are other "rings" that can be used on a guy that keeps their blood up there.

Get a guy friend to go to the Doc. pay for his viagra, celais, or levetro, and or tell your doc, your hubby needs it, get the meds, and put it in his drink!
ha! ha! you know i'm kidding?????? right???? ;)

honestly a friend of my husband's is so thrilled with his new viagra life, that he gives my hubby a couple every now and then. Just the thought of using them, we don't!!
he-he!

It's not your fault!

I would say, i am attracted to older men who have a thing for viagra.............when you are first meeting them, tell them that you are a nympho, and ask if they use Viagra, cuz they will need it to keep up with you1!

how's that for honesty??

any happy go lucky guy would gladly oblige!

Answer 4

if you come right out and tell a guy he needs some purple pill to please you, of course he's gonna get offended.

what would worry me more, though, is the guy bringing it up when I was just going to let it be, and blaming *me* for it!!!

when you're with a man who's comfortable enough with you and himself to not blame you for what his body is doing, and if he has the same trouble with stamina, I'm sure it will be possible to discuss alternatives to help him last longer and keep you satisfied.

Answer 5

say it like this: "We both have expectations in the relationship and in order for you to meet mine, you're going to need Viagra"

Answer 6

Tell them how you feel exactly as you did here. Best of luck.

Answer 7

I say if he cant accept you being open with him about his sexual performance then you shouldn't have sex with him.

Answer 8

yumm, viagra!