ive been going out with a guy for about a week now and i have realised that he just isn't right for me...but he really likes me. I really want to dump him but i have no idea how to without being mean. I have also discovered that one of my best friends likes him (which i didn't know before i went out with him), but she is really happy for me and i don't want to let her down...so how can i dump him without hurting anyone?
2007-03-19 08:49:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok... tell him the truth...
You are hurting him more and being mean by just waiting on it. Don't lead a person, it will come back to you and hit you in the rear when you least expect it and you won't like it.
Just tell him you need to talk something important, in private and in person. Get together one evening or at lunch and tell him you think he is great, but you don't feel he is the right person for you and you want to move on. You want both of you to move on.
If he wants to further discuss this or argue, just tell him nicely that you are letting him know, not asking him.
Regarding your friend - it doesn't come to the case. You don't need to base your decisions on your friends opinions. Use your own judgment.
2007-03-19 09:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever "dump" anyone...that's cold and cruel. If you want to break things off with this guy then simply tell him that although you appreciate his interest, the two of you just aren't a good match...wish him the best.
Never date anyone because a friend or family member wants you to...you need to have more concern about you and your partner, than letting some outside third party "down"...they aren't part of the relationship and their opinion or feelings about it really don't matter.
2007-03-19 15:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't dump someone you have only been seeing for a week. Just tell him that you don't think you are right for each other. And move on.
2007-03-19 15:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes well there are 2 ways.. the first way you can is to let him know how you feel about him.. Then ask him this question. say " I am right for you??'' Then see what he says.. He should say yes but if he doesnt then you brake up with him.. And if he says yes you should ask yourself do you really like him.. Then if you say no then you should first kiss him then tell him that he is sweet but yall arent going to work out, then walk away.. Slowly
2007-03-19 15:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Brianna R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately someone always gets hurt in this situation. Go with it's not you it's defiantly me and that's no line.And maybe if there's no hard feelings you can hook him up with your friend. If nothing else you can always grow to like even love him in time,as long as he's a good guy and not an ***.
2007-03-19 15:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by essa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh.. for me, i'll just try to be sincere to him by telling him my true feelings towards him. but for you, hmm........ try to find out his weakness and his goodness. and try to balance it. if the goodness is much heavier you should know that it's not a harm to dump him. you should just start seeing other guy by now if you think it's harder than just dumping him. if the weakness is much heavier, you really need to be more tolerate to him. you may try to make him hate you IF you're willing to face the results.. or maybe you may try to do opposite things that he suggest to you. or maybe you should tell him that you're not ready to date him right now and maybe you should just tell him that you need some space to be alone right now.or maybe you should try to make your dates as dull as possible. or just try to show no interest to anything that he likes or what he says. or i think the best thing to do is to tell him about your bestfriend(the one that have the best relationship with him)'s feelings. well, the much longer your friend knows him than you is the much better. maybe he 'll surrender or maybe who knows he actually liked her before you. well it's worth to try.
2007-03-19 16:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by syaoran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breakups are always hard, someone will always get hurt. The best thing to do is be honest let him know you dont feel the same way.
2007-03-19 15:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by jules27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a week I don't think you need to "dump" him. It is not really long enough to have any etiquette. Just stop calling him.
2007-03-19 15:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Main 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you're calling it quits. Screw what the friend thinks you should do, she's not the one in this relationship.
2007-03-19 15:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ur friend and him together- if they like each other- he'll dump u.
2007-03-19 15:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋