A lot of guys I met can't seem to let go of their past relationship baggage. They seem to drag all their hurt, mistakes, dissappointment into the current relationship. Want to make the new people jump through hoops to gain trust. It's not right or fair to the new person. I am not here to right all past wrongs.
Where can I find a man who loves likes he has never been hurt?
2007-03-19 08:37:59 · 11 answers · asked by Hanna S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good luck with that one! Is human nature to be distrusting of new partners. Men and women are both guilty of it. The only thing to do is be honest, trustworthy and reassure them. If after a while they still don't trust you and you've given them no reason to distrust, kick em to the curb!!! Good luck!
2007-03-19 08:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right it's not fair for you...but this is the truth...
From seeing what has happened being in love and then having love being taken away from you does hurt more then most things in life...that's why they called love a precious thing.
You have to know that guys go by experience and that's the only thing they know......being hurt..they don't know nothing else so they don't make the same mistake twice and make the new person go through hoops. So they know for only themselves that you are different from the ex. When crushed from love one of the first instincts is to generalize that "all guys are this or all girls are that".
But on the flip side guys can be also that person that your looking...even though he has been hurt he now that NO EVERY GIRL THINKS LIKE ME EX. and has give his new love the benefit of a doubt without having her go through hoops..but then the girl would find a way to take advantage of that..hopefully that won't happen.
And then to answer the question yes..there is a guy who has never been hurt ..but there is a danger...
If he has never been hurt and how can he appreciate love..?
How can a child the value of anything if it's been just handed him like a silver spoon? If love is just given to you then you don't value it..unless it's taken away..
2007-03-19 08:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lone Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting people are not capible of healing, they go from one to another simply because they asked to much of the one they just left. Did that make sense? But People seems to use other people to hid themselves from themselves. They don't want to slow down to be healed from the last break up and their bound for another break up because their bound to be themselves after the time of empression is over. . Relationships are nothing more than one or both using one anther for comfort.like throwing their hurts under a rug, eventually it begins to bulge.
There are so many hurting people out there. One of the mistakes we make is to get involved to soon, we give too much to soon. Slow down and get some patience or use your pateince.. You ever heard of first empressions? Well! keep it slow until you're no longer empressed. Let the real person come out. For goodness sake!
Maybe you also are hurt? Its okay if so. But The key is wholeness first. A man cannot make you. Neither can you make a man.. The best men are not looking first for a "wife" notice I didn't say girl friend. If a man is not looking for a wife he's just looking to fill his addictions and most likely he's wounded. And you'd be his passifier. Anyways the man you want is preparing himself on his own he is learning to pay his bills building "his" nest so that when he's ready he'll come. "WHEN A MAN FINDS a wife he finds a good thing". Prepare yourself don't look on the outer appearance first. In high school the best guy wasn't the big time football player, But he may have been the guy you walked right past as you flirted with him.
Last but not least. Real men follow Jesus. But even then we all must judge a tree by its fruit..
2007-03-19 09:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dont Have A Grand Son With A Dog Collar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called baggage and the older you get the more of it you carry around with you...the important thing is how you carry it.
I would not jump through hoops for someone just because they had a problem with someone in the past. Time for them to grow up and move on...learn how to carry the baggage where it does not interfere with the now.
be cool...
2007-03-19 08:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL, you are the same. We are all the same. We are constantly molded by our current and past experiences.
The use full question is why do you fall for these guys who have maybe more baggage?
Another interesting question could be why are you so arrogant? Don't you think you have baggage and hang-ups?
Good luck
2007-03-19 08:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by the secret is in the pudding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely the reason they do is because of the fact ex boyfriends are adult men. adult men understand that females choose love and that they teach that for the period of the initiating. Then genuine colorings teach and the guy finally ends up being slightly a douche or basically needs intercourse with the female. So that's the adult men fault for having idiotic behaviour that ends up in a wreck up. yet its the females fault for letting her safeguard down and relationship. that's why they finally end up breaking up and have emotional bags for the recent relationship. have self assurance me, relationships is a sturdy observe. relationship now a days is an excuse to fulfill hormones. despite got here approximately to the relationship between couples characterised by utilising mercy, desire and love? nicely that was marriage and now relationship killed it.
2016-10-02 09:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by rollman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wuld you want a man who has never been hurt?
PS chickks are likke this too. The good ones are worth the extra effurt.
2007-03-19 08:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Timothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause they are not over there past yet
the only way is to be friends with the person beforehand so that u know them well enough to know that they wont - have hang ups
2007-03-19 08:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person who loves like he has never been hurt is truly beautiful, and you can recognize them by their radiant egg yoke faces.
2007-03-19 08:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by sam_alot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try mail order
2007-03-19 08:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by mrnaturl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋