I recently overheard my mother in-law tell my husband that I am a half-brain. She is upset with some decisions that we made recently and she feels that it is my husband's way of acting out and wanting attention. I supported my husband's feelings and because of this she told him that I am a half-brain, etc. The thing is, there is a family dinner coming up. I get along well with my husband's brothers and sisters. I just don't know how to handle the mother in-law at this dinner. Any advice? Before this, she and I got along fairly well.
2007-03-19 08:36:25 · 15 answers · asked by rach78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What you overheard was probably her frustration with the situation, and her lack of control over her son. Since the comment was not meant for your ears, I suggest going to dinner and pretending it never happened. I'm sure you've said things you didn't mean when you were upset. If the issue comes up, just calmly explain that you and your husband are in agreement about the issue. That's it. Good luck, and contrary to what some people say, you do marry your husband's family.
2007-03-19 08:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by oj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. That is his mother and does he treat you good and his mother. She might have ALZ--be compassion too. Be a woman of peace. All that work that old mother-in-law is causing to make your life a drama is not worth your energy. Watch and pray. Do not talk a lot to her or anyone about your private life even the sisters and bro. Look at her in the eyes. The eyes are the mirror to the soul. You have her son be happy and rule your world and your man. Woman rise bones.Focus on his love.
2007-03-19 08:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to let things roll off your shoulder. Whatever decisions/choices that you and your husband made are your decisions whether they are sound or half baked. I would not bring up the topic in front of her, however, if she does.....tell her that it is a decision you and her son made together-good, bad, indifferent. If it was a poor decision than you will both learn from your OWN mistakes. I would bet that momma in law made some poor choices in her day. Good luck sweetie....It is live and learn!
2007-03-19 08:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by sunset 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing your husband should have stuck up for you immediately when she said this. Next, you heard it and now you need to respond. I would go to her house or have her over when it is just the two of you. Sit down at the kitchen table and explain to her what you heard and tell her that it hurt your feelings and see what she says. Hopefully she will apologize and you two can go on as before. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-19 08:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brush it over you have probably said things or at least thought of things about people that you dont actually mean. if she does think this it is hard but your on a no win if you say somthing its her family they will take her side and before you know it the hole family dislikes you even though you havent done anything. it will also make it difficult for your husband just grin and bear it. good luck though its not easy.
2007-03-19 08:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are family & she probably feels that she can say that and it won't have any affect on your relationship with her. I'd just let it go if its the only thing she's ever said to upset you. I'm sure m-i-l's say a whole lot more than that, that we don't hear, lol.
2007-03-19 08:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her ,just be polite to her for the day , i have the same problem with my mother in law i think she thinks that i should jump when my husbands asks me for something , i just tell him to feck off and get it himself, she dont like that cause she does everything for her husband and so does her other daughter in law with her other son .
2007-03-19 08:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her comment and go on as usual. Be the big one here and let her find out that yu have full brain than hers.
2007-03-19 08:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by "Vallamkali" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, try to ignore what she says and act like you don't know she said it. Do keep it in the back of your mind though. Look for it to happen again and again.
2007-03-19 08:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore what you heard and treat her as you would have before this. It will make things to much smoother for all of you. Make like you know nothing... but don't forget what you heard.
2007-03-19 08:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋