My divorced bf who's been living w me almost a yr meets women through work (entertainment industry) and keeps in touch with them via email 'friends' which I can deal with
he is looking for a place of his own but says he wants to continue our relationship
There are signs though like : lock on his cell phone and songs he writes about women he meets which express wanting to see them again, etc. ..it kills me. I tried talking to him about ending it but he assures me that things are fine says he's leaving so that he can concentrate working on his music.
Part of me wants to punch him on the nose the other half wants to be patient , is this a stage he is going through?..Yeah I feel like an idiot, worst part I don't have any friends.
2007-03-19 08:32:26 · 6 answers · asked by incoming03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reality check?
Let him go and get some friends.
Easier said than done, but you will be thankful in the long run.
2007-03-19 08:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it looks like you need a reality check or someone to confirm your suspicion. He is stringing you along to keep a roof over his head. If you can't just kick him out then at least stop putting out. Tell him you don't think the relationship is heading anywhere and that you see no need to keep dragging it out. GIve him a reasonable deadline to find a place of his own. Since this is your place lay down the rules. If he is going to date ( which will probably get him to move in on some other girl and out of your hair)tell him that you will NOT allow strangers in your home and he is not to bring them to your place. Let him know if he breaks that rule than he will be kicked out before the agreed upon time. Don't let him hang around long get him out ASAP. If he was serious about this relationship he wouldn't be seeing other women in situations that make you uncomfortable and he wouldn't be moving out. If he can't work on his music with you now he probably won't be able to later either.
2007-03-19 15:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time you get out and make some friends.There are lots of places you can "safely" do this.Take a nite class,go to church.volunteer etc.
Sounds to me like this guy wants out and isn't up front by telling you.My son is a musician-song writer and he doesn't need his own place to work.Poor excuse!!
If he loved you there would be no "stage" he's going through.I think you already know what the answer is........you just wanted reassurance from someone.
You have no need to feel like and idiot.......he's the idiot my dear.
A punch in the nose would feel good on your part but it wouldn't solve anything and maybe get you into trouble.
Let him go and tell him not to come back crying anytime soon.
You need to make yourself a new life and one day down the road you'll be happy you did.
God Bless.
2007-03-19 15:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he is just busy working. My husband is in the music business so i know how it is for my man to be at the studio all the time. Just let him know that it upsetting you with all the girls calling and e-mailing you. Ask him why he really wants to move out if he wants to separate or what. Tell him that something needs to change if he want to stay with you. good luck
2007-03-19 16:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by ace2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he is USING you ,, for a FREE Place to live while he goes out and does GOD knows what to these other woman, take him to a home less shelter and say SEE YA
2007-03-19 15:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gawd girl let him go!!! you don't deserve that. its gonna suck not being with him, a year is a long time but go find you someone (maybe 2) that will make time for you and write songs about YOU not other women!!!
2007-03-19 15:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋