Am I the only one who would like better eating manners??

Question

I have always, since i was a kid, been disgusted by people who eat with their mouths open, etc., and I'm appalled to see that a lot of young kids (from about 6 yrs. old), have horrendous eating manners- boys and girls alike. Is this not a thing that parents teach any more? my parents were pretty strict about manners, and all my friends were taught the same ways- why aren't young kids taught to eat properly any more? when will they learn, if not now? i can only imagine them as future CEO's, executives, etc, at a business lunch in 20 years!!

p.s. I don't blame the kids at all... they're kids, they only learn what they're taught, or what they're NOT taught.

Answer 1

Oh I am totally in agreeance with you! I too am appalled at some children's manners. Where do these children learn to eat?! My girls have been taught (and are in the process of still learning and polishing their manners) that chewing with your mouth open and talking with your mouth full are unacceptable. Those along with other standard table manners do not take much time to teach, starting when they are young! Going to eat out is a whole different story--it's as if some parents just want to let their child run wild, and they are too afraid to discipline in public if ever! It is not your home, there are others out there that are trying to enjoy their meals! My girls get complimented all the time by how nicely they are able to sit and eat out. We make sure that they have things to occupy them as well as talk to them and include them in discussions. We've done this since they were born and I have no problem (nor does my nanny) taking them out to eat!

Let's learn some manners and pass them along to our children!

Answer 2

Give me 5 sister! I feel the same way!!! I'm just amazed when I go eat lunch with my daughters and see the manners of the other children. My nieces and nephews do the same thing. I've talked with my sisters about it and yet they still don't teach their children good manners. They are also the type that doesn't expect their children to sit with them at dinner time. They are up and down out of their seats. It drives me insane! I don't invite them over anymore because it is such a problem. I have to wonder why so many parents don't take the time to teach manners anymore. Is it because they aren't with their children as much as women use to be? Most moms work these days. Who knows... I just know it is a gross problem. Have a wonderful day!

Answer 3

My parents were pretty strict with me at dinner time. I used to be a preschool teacher and I taught my class the same things. We don't start eating until everyone has their food - it's rude to eat in front of other people when they do not have their food yet. They had to sit down an eat - if they got up then I assumed they were done and they needed to throw their food out. If I could get 10 four year olds to have okay table manners parents should be able to get their one or two children to do it too!!!

Answer 4

Every parent I know has a "pick your battles" mentality. I guess most parents view other things as more important.

I have found teaching manners to be regional. I have a friend from the south who basically went to finishing school to learn manners. But my friends in the Midwest had never heard of it!

Also some business schools have classes on dining manners - so no need to worry about CEO's.

Answer 5

I know! Not only the manners, but also kids' speech as well! Their grammar is horrendous! I think a lot of the lack of manners is from the parents being too busy (or lazy) or not taught properly themselves to divulge that precious information to their own children. My parents were (and still are) very strict when it comes to both manners and grammar. I'm the same way w/ my children and people always remark at how well-behaved my children are and so polite to enjoy a meal w/. Well, I train them at home and correct their mistakes as they make them instead of waiting until it's too late. I'm just shocked that people need to remark on my children's behaviour, yet do nothing on their own to ensure their children behave the same way. I never have to be embarrassed in public w/ my kids and I'm proud of my own accomplishment as well as my kids for following our rules!

Answer 6

I agree. We teach our children at home to have manners, just as our parents taught us. I feel it has to do a lot with what they see on TV and then how other children act around them (well, those that maybe are not taught). Even children's sitcoms today have changed so much. The kids mouth off and talk more sassy to their parents much more than they did back then. And I think that this all ties together. If your child does not listen to you and respect your authority, you are not going to get them to obey even the simplest things - such as keeping up with good manners.

Smiles!

Answer 7

My cousins all absolutely disgust me. I am the second eldest at 18 years old, and my parents raised my sister (22), my brother(10) and myself with impeccable manners. My cousins actually make jokes about us being too polite. I just don't understand how my ten year old brother can understand that he has to chew with his mouth closed, ask to be excused to leave the table etc. while my cousins who are all older than him cannot. You can't really blame the kids though... it is clearly the parent's fault.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I agree with you. Me and my husband are always get on to our kids for eating with their mouth open. It is very inappropriate and yes you are right we as parents need to enforce such table manners as this. That's just about as bad as farting at the table to me. That was a big NO NO at my home as a child. If you broke wind at table it was on like donky kong with my dad. My kids will sometimes use some unfit table manners such as this and burping. They think it is funny and cute, but they know it's wrong and they know they are in big trouble. I agree with you totally.

Answer 10

I hear ya, it's not just the children now a days it's ADULTS we are just as bad as anyone else....People who pick their nose or fart or scratch their balls in public is just as sick as chewing with their mouthes open....I for one as well have amazing table manners and manners all together..I always say please and thank you and hello and goodbye to my elders and youngings too....People in general are plain iggornat doesn't mean children it more so means ADULTS we are more rude then kids and they grow up to be adults so we are to blame not kids....And the parents now a days don't give a f*ck what happens to their kids and some of them just screw around trying to get "Knocked up" again because they are Whooores lol...But I hear ya give ya "Props" for that one ;)

Jackie