will my ex ever forget me please help please?

Question

if a lad is in a relationship with a girl for two years an they break up but they have had sex an became really close how long will it take for him to get over her if the reason for breaking up was because he felt they gradually came apart an he still wants to be friends

Answer 1

Sorry about your "Ex"! It's hard on anyone who goes through a breakup.

But, the answer will be "No" he will not forget you, ever! Even men reminisce about past relationships; and many years from now he will look back and see the good and the bad in the relationship he had with you. From time to time, he will wounder what your doing? And maybe contact you just to say "hello" But when he does, show him how awesome your doing with out him.

Answer 2

Good grief, the drama... You failed to mention the age of this 'lad' and that is perhaps the most important element in answering your question. Though, you used 'an' instead of 'and' 3 times, you referred to him as a 'lad', although you presented multiple concepts you piled them in to just one sentence, your question starts in the first person but ends in the third person, and you state 'came apart' instead of 'grew apart'. Considering these nuances I can say that there is a deficit of emotional maturity involved, this was one of if not the first sexual experience for him. Since you're the one inquiring, I understand that you have another interest already, and that you want him to be able to 'move on' since he continues to call you. This causes you guilt because when he talks to you, he assumes the role of 'victim', hoping that will influence you to return to him. The answer to stopping a behavior is to stop rewarding it. Therefore, you need to start making it uncomfortable for him to call you. Tell him that he's making you feel angry when he calls and that you are interested in a few other people right now. Tell him that you don't want to keep in contact because it makes you feel 'bad' and that remaining 'friends' is just uncomfortable for you. Don't let him get the idea that you'll want to talk to him in a week or so, or that continuing to call you is acceptable; if he thinks he has a chance, however slight, of resurecting this relationship, he'll continue to contact you. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Lets see, being a lad myself. How long would it take me to forget a girl friend once she said "no more Sex!" ???mmmmmmmmmmmm, I think 30 seconds would do it. But then, that's just me.

Answer 4

you broke up..coz of the feeling of growing away and distance,- that was his decision and feeling, so y are u worried if hesgna 4get u or not?
i undastand that u were v close, but men take longer to get over a long relationship thna girls, een though girls may seem weak- but we have our friends and family, wheras lads dnt bother talking bou all dat wiv anyohne as much as we do.

ur stressing like as thou hes a phsycotic stalker or sumat.lol.
lisen, if ur gna mve on nw and becum friends, then thats gud init. but if ur both single, n u start to be friends again perhaps u may hitch up againlater?maybe u both needed the break so u even agreed to have the break up? do u wanna? dats up to u.. as long as u dnt break him up wiv a new relationship ( i knw u wnt,,jus sayin)

he just said "lets be friends" so u dnt feel used.. hes a gud lad in that sense, udarwise the b*stards jus f off aftre sayin "its over!" lol..

on the other hand.. he wont forget forget u like amnesia, lol, but dat dunt mean he will still love u necessarily.
hell remeber gud times wiv u..etc.
last few words, after my long essay:
he will forget u....or other hand..u may fall in love al over again..but maybe thats nt in 4 u bth ryt nw so u wnt agree with me.. (do u still miss him? still love him??)
and lastly..
next time, act as best friends wiv ur bf nt jus a gf to giv him sex n kises. u want laugh and fun in a relationship so it would last longer..or forever..
takecare..
p.s- i agree wiv the answerer ARMYSOLID and LESLEY aswell .theyre ryt.
stop stressin gurl..like i sed he aint a stalker!hes a EX!lol

Answer 5

It sounds like you're still giving it more attention than it needs, too. Move on. Go to a movie. Let it go. If the time ever comes that both of you want to try again, go for it, but until then, you have to enjoy your own life.

Answer 6

it depends on you situation it really isnt a good idea to break up then have sex it confuses things (like you are now). if you are this confused how confused is the other person.

Answer 7

There is no pat answer. Some people move on immediately. Others it takes a while. But he WILL get over you so get over yourself.

Answer 8

If you have to ask this question, then he's not close. You're the one that's in love not him. He's in it purely for the sex. You're just an easy, convenient lay.

Answer 9

It depends, but it seems he got over you before the break up.

Answer 10

It can take years.