i am pregnant but my baby's father dont want to have the child and i do what should i do?
2007-03-19 08:15:55 · 17 answers · asked by crystal_aka_loca 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you are planning on keeping the child, then immediately speak to someone about what you need to do in order to recieve child support.
2007-03-19 08:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Souris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first question: do you want to keep the baby? If not, adoption is a good choice. I wouldn't advocate abortion even if you're not very far along unless you really don't have any other choice because it can affect you emotionally in ways that you can't imagine until it's done.
If you want to keep the baby, you'll need a lot of support, so involve your parents and extended family. And don't forget child support! The baby's father might not want to get married and be a dad, but it takes two to make a baby and he has to learn responsibility also. Don't let him off the hook on this one, honey!
2007-03-19 15:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want the baby you should keep it as long as you know that someone would be there to help you when you need help. Dont' listen to what other people insist. Goventment assist isn't a burden, even if no one was on government assistance people would still pay taxes and the money would just be sitting around. Now with child support you will have to prove to the judge that the kid is his and by doing so you will need his name on the birth certificate. If not that way then an order for a DNA test will be issued. There's always ways around what seems to be a bad situation now. Keep your baby if he wants to leave let him go. Good Luck!!
2007-03-23 13:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by brwnladi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get an abortion right away. There is no way a teenager should have a baby, no matter if there is a father in the picture or not.
You could put it up for adoption, but there are so many children in the foster care system already, more than anyone wants. Why would you want to add to that problem?
At your age, the most responsible thing you could do is get the abortion, and then go on birth control so this doesn't happen again. Then you will be free to finish your education, go to college and make something of your life. If you become a single teen mother, your life will be ruined, and any dreams you have for your future will die.
Anyone who tells you different is lying. Anyone who tells you that they did it and had a great life is an exception, and for every one of those there are at least a hundren other girls working working as fry cooks and mooching off welfare in order to feed their children.
Every now and again, someone jumps out of a 10 story window and survives, doesn't mean everyone should jump. Don't ruin your life, please.
2007-03-19 17:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's all up to you. You have a number of choices, abortion, adoption or keeping it. If you choose abortion you need to do it early on in your pregnancy, if you wait you may not be able to have one at all and will have to pick from one of the other options. If you want to put it up for adoption, you need to decide if you will be going through a lawyer or an agency then find out from them what the steps are for doing so. If you choose to keep it then I suggest getting a lawyer and filing for child support from the father. Even if he doesn't pay it will still be filed and if you have to resort to using welfare to support your child the state will go after the father to pay that money back when he is able to do so.
Some states WILL let him give up his parental rights but that doesn't automatically mean that he gives up supporting the child...in California for instance a parent CAN sign away ALL parental rights at anytime, however that still doesn't relieve them of the responsibility to support there child.
2007-03-19 15:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not his choice, it's your baby and you body. Decide what to do according to your situation, not his. Can you care for this baby? Are you ready to be a full time MOM? Do you have a good strong support group around you, not jsut other teens in the same situation. Talk to your family, talk to a proffesional counsler, a guideance counsler, there is alot of help out there, go use it, and don't be pressured by the childs father to make a desicion either way, that you might regret the rest of your life.
2007-03-19 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you consider all options, adoption, abortion and single parenting. As a teenager, you're still a child yourself. Parenting alone is even harder as a teenager. What about school, a job, a home, etc. You have a long life in front of you. You need to do what's best for you AND the baby. Talk to your parents. Their reaction might make a difference in what you choose.
2007-03-19 15:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give the baby up for adoption but you can also have an abortion. If you must keep the child, you can burden society by means of welfare and court costs to get child-support from the father. Anyway good luck!
2007-03-19 19:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sheena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you keep the baby, you are going to have a really tough road ahead of you, but it can be done. Have you considered adoption? That's a good alternative and you can choose the family that adopts your baby and still have contact and also finish school. I would think about that. I have been through it and it is not easy, but is often what is best for the baby. If you need to talk, let me know! Good luck making your decision.
2007-03-19 15:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that even if the baby's father doesn't want to be a part of his/her life, the baby still deserves a chance. make it's life the best. maybe he/she won't be so bad off without his father if you are a committed mother.
2007-03-19 15:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Soma C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋