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Question

Ok, i really like this girl at my school, we are both going to college and she is in one of my classes. i would like to tell her how beautiful she really is, but the thing is i really never talked to her before and i see her twice a week, a friend told me to write her a letter about how i feel about her and then put it in her folder when she is not looking. what do you think?? should i write her that letter or should I talk to her personaly?? i am kind of a shy guy but my love for her is greater. or what kinds of things should i write to her?? what do you think she will say or do?? do you think she would like it?? what can i do??

Answer 1

Insert eye roll here. How can you "love" someone you've never even talked to? She could be a real snot. You find her attractive, but you do not love her.

Do NOT write her a note and stick it in her folder, that is SO junior high. Just go up to her after class and start by talking about something that happened in class - the topic that day, your most recent exam, your upcoming exam. See if she wants to grab a coke or something at the student union or a place where students go to hang out. Start by getting to know her as a person before you declare your undying love or tell her how beautiful she is - either of those things would creep her out.

Answer 2

I don't think writing her a letter is a good idea! For 1) She might think that you are stalking her which could turn out bad. 2) By writing her instead of confronting her shows her that you have some nervousness to you which might make you look bad. 3) You might get a better result if she can see your facial expressions. I think that you should just hold your head up high and go for the kill. I think that you should tell her that you like what she has done with her hair or that you like something that she is wearing they lead into how much you have noticed her beauty! If you think things are going sour back up a bit and just leave her with the thought of interest.

Answer 3

You guys are both in college not elementary school. The letter idea is very childish. Another thing is, if you don't know this girl please don't use the word LOVE. You might like her and want to get to know her, but you can't possibly be in love with her just yet.

Take a deep breath and use your intelligence to come up with an excuse or a reason to talk to her. You can ask her for help in class, help with notes, help with understanding a problem or something confusing about what the teacher explained in class, you can asker her to help you with tutoring - just once a week - don't over do it... ask her to lunch one day. Or ask her to lunch in class for the next day. Invite her to one of your parties with friends or if your friends are getting together somewhere let her know, so she has to option to join you guys. You have so many options when it comes to approaching her, you are in college - there is a million opportunities for you to talk to her.

Get the courage and go for it, before someone else does.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

First of all, you need to chill out a bit. You seem like a puppy in heat.

Second, don't just tell her that she's beautiful and you're drooling over her. This shows you're horny and creepy.

Third, try to accommodate some conversation about an off topic. Chit chat is good for start.

Fourth, try to get some more information on her, like her name and number... also let her know who you are.

Fifth, ask her out on a date. (if she says no, tell her she's beautiful and you keep thinking about her. it's like calling a hail mary at the end of the football game when you're loosing anyway.)

Sixth, once you're on a date, tell her how you feel. Tell her you find her very beautifull, etc.

Basically, just be smooth about it. Don't walk up to her and freak her out. I'm sure she knows she's beautiful, if she is. Girls are not dumb (even though they act flatered everytime). Just try to tell her your feelings after you have some time with her. So that she can really take in what you're saying as special. Make sure to compliment her on more than just her looks.

Anything you do from that point, don't come across as creepy.

Answer 5

First of all, calm down. I can tell how nervous you are by your continuous questions obviously rapid typing. Just remeber, girls like guys who are straightforward. You could send her a letter, but it wouldn't be the same as telling her in person. She needs to hear the words from you, not from a piece of paper. Second of all, you should get her alone. If you're shy and trying to talk to her around her friends, it'll be even harder to tell her how you feel. Just talk to her calmly and if she doesn't totally shun you, then tell her. You might even want to ask her out if she reacts positively enough. Or, you could take it slow by just chatting for a couple of minutes and figuring out if you two could be starting a potential relationship before asking her out to maybe a dinner or a movie and then telling her how you feel. Either way, you've got to talk to her and let her know or else you'll never have a future together.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You need to correct your perspective.
You haven't really spoken with her, yet you say you love her. You're actually in love with the idea of her... this is called infatuation.
You're in college, slipping notes and things like that are too infantile at this point and expecially if you don't know her, she'll write you off as a stalker/psycho.
Just get a grip, be confident and approach her. Show some balls, like you don't give a **** ask her to hang out.

So simple yet so hard, eh?

Answer 8

1) You've never even talked to her, you can't possibly love her. You need to realize that... immediately.

2) Don't write her a letter. Talk to her. Just walk over and say hi, and talk to her. Don't be a f***ing coward. She'll never respect you if thats what she thinks of you.

Just go over, talk to her, say hello, introduce yourself... ask some questions about her and let her talk. Maybe ask her out for a cup of coffee or whatever. You wanna be laid back, but confident, and treating her like an equal... not like some kind of f*cking pristine goddess.

If you treat a girl like a princess, she's going to act like one. And unless you're a prince, that's not gonna be good for you.

Answer 9

I would talk to her. Being personal is better than a note. Just talk to her about school or something easy. Ask if she would like to go for coffee and see what happens. Once you start talking to her you can tell her how pretty she looks and go from there. Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

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Talk to her about class, its the one thing you both have in common. Say "Hi" to her, every time you see her. Ask her how she did on the test. And if you do good in the class, share your answers with her or your opinions, maybe talk about the teacher.

Being Subtle has it's advantages and remember these types of girls get "HIT" on all the time, so if your different, she will notice that.