my ex was so confusing, now this other person i am seeing is too. i just want to know how he feels about me! we have known each other for nearly a month yet have only ever met twice as both of us are busy and live 45 mins away. he's always the first to say hi on msn and he always been the one to ask me out. this weekend however i met his best friend and i seemed to be talking more to his friend then i did to him. i don't fancy his friend but he seemed a little bored by the whole thing at this point i was worried and sent a text saying i had a good time in which he replied saying he had too but i didn't really speak to him it was more his friend and he seemed so bored. then i later emailed him asking if he wanted to go out to see a show or something but he hasn't replied ' whats going on? being paranoid? does he like me? really confused now!
2007-03-19 08:13:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
chill the best things come to those who wait
2007-03-19 08:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are always hard to read. Long distance relationships make it even worse. Your worst fear shouldn't be your first fear though. Yes the option that he is interested in somebody else is out there, but there are way more other options it could be. Such as having a bad week at work, or a family issue, or that the girl he is seeing is talking to his friend instead of him. It doesn't help though that he isn't very talkative! My relationship with my wife was the same way. I am in the army and was stationed in Ft Lewis, WA and she was 50 minutes away in Seattle, WA. Due to our schedules (mostly mine) there was some weekends we got together and some weekends we didn't. There was even times that we were both talking to others on the side. Over time though we kept talking and dating and after 3 years of playing the game she made me happy when she said yes. That was in 2003 and we are still together strong. So not sure if this helps you out or not, but at least it lets you know there are other people out there like you.
2007-03-19 15:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by The Government Mule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are weird. Really. A lot of them really do not communicate very well. But, just try to go by what he tells you. Don't read too much more into it. I find that guys are a bit on the blank side when it comes to emotions. They seem to relate better to computers, sports and cars. It's like their another species entirely. Good luck. If he doesn't reply in a week or two, then you can get concerned. But it is a little early now (I think).
2007-03-19 15:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL you all crack me up... if youve seen this guy twice you are not in a relationship! How is he suppose to know how he feels about you when youve met twice? When you meet someone for the first time your not even sure sometimes if you like them or not. Your ex probably wasnt confusing your moving way to fast for anybody. Hes probably thinking your pushy. I think the friend is more interested in you then he is at this point, try slowing down some. YOUVE ONLY JUST MET A MONTH AGO!
2007-03-19 15:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month is hardly enough time to say if you genuinely like someone or not. You have the initial enjoying each others company but maybe hes laid back and doesn't want to jump in.
Give it time, he may surprise you. If you start putting the pressure on and asking him all the time how he feels he will go the other way completely, thats what men do,, Back em into a corner and they run in the opposite direction..]
Chill out and go with the flow.
2007-03-19 15:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold on for a while. You say you met a month ago and you've only went out twice. So why are you so much in a rush to know how he feels. Guys don't like questions and they certainly don't like to have a girl or woman ask questions all the time. Just let him breathe. If he doesn't email you back, then maybe it's not working out for him. Maybe he likes you and likes to say Hi, but guys are different, he can come and talk to you and go out with 10 other girls, and it won't bother them. Us, girls ( women) we go out once and we're in love....So just let him be. Ask him out one more time, if the answer is the same, then don't email him anymore and find somebody else.
Good luck
2007-03-19 15:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Interesting....
Your not paranoid but he is insecure. You should be working on building a good friendship first...but why would he bring his best friend around when you two are in the beginnings of a possible relationship, for his judgment. I don't think so and he seems very shy and unsure. Don't emotionally beat him up, just come out and ask point blank what he thinks. The worst he can say is NO.
2007-03-19 15:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever heard of the 'strong, silent type'?
Next time you're with him, don't jabber so much. Just enjoy his presence, the atmosphere created by him being there, and smle secretly at him now and then. Even a wink, like the two of you share a secret that nobody else knows about is a great, mysterious way to 'connect' with someone who doesn't talk a whole lot.
If you do this, you will draw him out; he will relax and become comfortable enough around you to express himself. Wait and listen; he will say marvelous things when you least expect it, or he will do something so sweet it will make you catch your breath.
2007-03-19 15:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hyper and/or impatient? Do you wear people out so they yawn and seem bored?? SLOW DOWN, take a breath, and relax - men are actually very easy to "read" - it's called keep it simple, try not to approach them with too much emotion, do things slowly and make sure they totally understand, and everything will be fine. If you really need to know what he is thinking, ask him. Assuming one way or the other usually makes more confusion.
2007-03-19 15:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are paraniod, do you expect him to say I love you after meeting you twice? If he doesnt make a effort to do some thing with you on a regular basis, ( I am dating a woman who lives a hour away from me ) then I would move on to someone else,, IM Is a fast and easy way to " chat" with people, you dont have to get out in the real world, and you can multi task while doing it
2007-03-19 15:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, slow down! You've only met twice. He probably doesn't know if he likes you or not. Give him a couple more days to answer, and if he doesn't, email/im him and say "I'm making plans for this weekend. R we on for a movie or something, or not?" If he doesn't answer then you will know.
2007-03-19 15:20:05 · answer #11 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋