Girls who consider strip clubs cheating: would you dump or divorce your husband/bf if he went to one?

Question

& yes lap dances are cheating so don't think any guy goes to a strip club and is innocent and you know that to urslef guys

Answer 1

Not a girl, but I would say that any guy who goes to a strip joint is indeed cheating on his wife. He has no business going there if married/connected to someone else.
If you go there "innocent" as you say, you can turn right around and leave.

Answer 2

I have always had a problem with strip clubs. What most women dont know is that some, not all strip clubs can be bad. In my eyes they are all bad. What i mean by bad is that some clubs women will give lap dances until the men *** in their pants (excuse the term). I know this for a fact, for i have alot of male friends that always go to these things. Also might i add, is that you can also pay the strippers some extra money, to do little extras if you know what i mean. My husband have been to them three times, at least thats what i know. When i confront him about it he gets mad, so it makes me feel like he is hiding something. The big problem that i have is the lap dances, wether he got them i don't know, he claims he didn't. The thing that bothers me the most is that he is to much of a nice guys when it comes to everyone else. If they ask him to he will, and in the back of his mind he knows how i feel about them, but will still go. He has told me that he will never go again, but did it anyways, does he not realize that that more he does it the more i push myself away. Talking to him is kinda hopeless when in reference to the strip clubs, he gets mad and says if you cant trust me then thats my fault, and that i am a weirdo for feeling uncomfortable. I am always worried when is the next time he will go. His brother is coming home form Iraq in two weeks. Yes he is young and will never settle down, total opposite of my husband. I am afraid that he is going to end up going with him. I really hope he doesnt cause i would really hope that after everything we have a trustfull relationship not urt eachothers feelings. I am pregnant too, so now is def not a good time for him to be going, that will make me feel like ****.

Answer 3

I don't consider it cheating, but...I don't let my hubby go to strip clubs because it's a waste of money and a trashy place to be anyways. I'm not interested in going with him either. The place is just full of perverted low class guys!
I wouldn't divorce hubby if he went for a bachelor party or something, but if he continued to go and would rather be there than at home with me and our children...wasting OUR hard earned money on some sleezy stripper then yes. He would be single again!

Answer 4

I am with answerer Kerry 200%. A guy has no business going there if married and if connected to a significant other. It's just plain trash unless the couple goes together. But if not, nope. Not done. It's just cheap. If you want to go have fun...go ahead guys...& you will see the consequences for yourself. And if you are hiding, you are not doing either to you, your girl, or the relationship any justice. The cracks will develop. Your call. Love is a responsibility. You can't take it so lightly. If you need your complete freedom, don't get into committed relationships. Simple.

Answer 5

No, I definitely DO NOT consider it cheating. I consider it an appetizer. And then, they go and eat at home. :p

Seriously, I find them no big deal at all, and have gone with my boyfriends many times. In fact, it's lots of fun to go as a couple and enjoy the reactions of the dancers when they dance for you as a couple. You can't take the urge to look at pretty girls out of your man. And in truth, you really shouldn't want to. After all, you're one of those pretty girls he likes to look at, right?

If you haven't tried it, put your insecurities and pre conceived notions aside and go try something new! You might just find that its a harmless, fun way for you and your guy to enjoy something that's inherently male.

Good luck!

Answer 6

i tell you what, i'll let you beleive strip clubs are cheating if you agree that if you were doing your job as a girlfriend we wouldn't need to go to strip clubs just to touch some boobs. give guys some credit we know we're way hornier than women are, so when we use porn or strib clubs to subdue our libido so you don't bit.ch at us for getting a hard on you should be thankfull, gets you out of having sex if you don't want to. if you cut off those options to a guy that means your ready to try and match us blow for blow and when it comes to sex men and women are two different weight classes.

Answer 7

I wouldn't mind if my husband went to a strip club. I would even go to one with him. He knows where the line is, and I trust him not to cross it. Couples that don't trust each other have bigger issues than strip clubs. The clubs themselves have rules about crossing that line, and wouldn't let anything go that far.

Answer 8

no but i would milk it for all its worth by throwing it in his face every chance i got its a guaranteed win for every argument oh and by the way i don't consider lap dances cheating i think its gross but not cheating but strippers aren't devils man they are in titled to their bread and butter like everybody else and most of them are savvy business women who use there looks to make OBSCENE amounts of money more power to them....men who frequent these bars are just pawns in it all they end up with egg on there face because they usually get sloppy drunk and dump there whole pay on a fantasy that doesn't exist cause once the fake hair and eyelashes and stiletto heels and makeup are off whats left is just a woman like every other women so no i wouldn't leave my boyfriend cause its not a crime to be an idiot

Answer 9

that such a lie ive been to tons of strip clubs and i have never had a lap dance

Answer 10

so, your bf or husband went to a strip club?? and you want to break up with him or divorce him?? i would ask him why he even went there in the first place. then i would kick his ***, and dump him out on the curb, because obviously he doesn't think your good enough for him, or else he wouldn't have went to a strip club in the first place!! hope i helped!!!!!!