Just to stress that i am not planning on having a baby, and am not married, but just wondering if it is all happy families once the baby is born, or is it very stressful.
Have you husbands/partners been helpful, or maybe not?
2007-03-19 08:05:10 · 24 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
its a bad thing. bringing a baby into a rocky relationship won't save it, it will put more stress on it and chances are will drive the couple apart sooner.
2007-03-19 08:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby in order to save a rocky marriage is such a bad thing to do
and no it's not all happy family's after a baby is born,
coz the mothers hormones start to change again from the pregnancy and she may get post natal depression
and then the baby crying all hours day and night and some men or women just can't cope with that
or the new mum now only has time for the baby,
please note i am saying some not all,
i have 4 children and never married but i am in a long stable relationship.
2007-03-21 06:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by LJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A VERY BAD THING !!!!!! Having a baby puts strain on every couple, even the strongest relationships can be tested.
Not only do you have to tend to the baby round the clock but sometimes the Mum can get a bit resentful towards the Dad as she is stuck at home and he gets the freedom of going to work etc. My Hubby was and is helpful with our kids, thought sometimes I may have to ask him to do something.
As with all Mums that I know 90% of the bringing up of the kids is down to the Mum.
Believe me if a relationship is rocky then having a Baby will most certainly help to end the relationship totally.
My Husband and I planned and wanted both our children and I think that makes a big difference also, we knew what we were getting into with no surprise pregnancy's forced on to each other.
2007-03-19 15:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is very, very stressful. I think it would make a rocky marriage harder.
Every new parent I know agrees with this "No one should be allowed to get divorced in the year following the birth of a child". The constant need of the child, the lack of sleep, the lack of time for yourself or your relationship...all of it magnifies the smallest issue like crazy. The dirty dishes left on the counter were just annoying - now they are the cause of an all-out screaming match over the importance of cleanliness with a baby in the house.
My husband was, and is very helpful. Dishes, laundry, cleaning, baby duties (bathing, changing, etc). And even with the increased fights between us, we are happier as parents than just as a couple. And it does get easier as the baby gets older...you just gotta push through that first year!
2007-03-19 15:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very stressful. You are happy about the baby but it is a HUGE change that you can not even begin to anticipate. Have a baby is something I highly recommend that you not do if you have a rocky marriage. My husband and I have a great marriage and we have had tough times since the baby was born just due to the change and stress and lack of sleep.
2007-03-19 15:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by JEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't think many marriages have been improved by having a baby, unfortunately. Marriages need working at, and looking after a baby takes a lot of work too. It takes two to make a marriage work. If one isn't prepared to work at it then that just heaps lots of misery etc on to the other. Having a baby is a 'tie'. It should be a 'tie' that bonds love, not resentment, as can sometimes happen.
2007-03-19 15:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby adds more stress to a rocky marriage.
A baby should be brought into a stable, loving environment, not into a relationship that is already in trouble.
2007-03-19 15:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jester 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh jeez, it is insanely rewarding but also VERY stressful. It would probably throw a rocky marriage over the edge because having a baby is so much work and requires the two parents to work together.
2007-03-19 15:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by thatgirl90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that having an unplanned baby is very stressful. My husband doesn't help to often and his family meddles in way too much. Sometimes I feel that the responsibility is too much for my husband to handle. I've heard that a baby usually brings couples together but it had been kind of separating us.
2007-03-19 15:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by arwin_aragorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby does not improve a rocky relationship. children should only be brought into this world with love. adding a child to a rocky relationship is not fair to the child. it is not the childs responsibilty to correct what is already wrong. and for a potential new parent to think that is totally irresponsible. if the relationship is already rocky, i would suggest going to a marriage counselor or get a divorce.
2007-03-19 15:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by anna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very bad idea. Having a baby never solved anything and many times it is the beginning of the end
.Women are usually the ones that think it will hold the man, while the man will just feel trapped and want to move on..
2007-03-19 15:17:19 · answer #11 · answered by Cinna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋