A childhood friend is getting married. We became close friends during a certain time of our life. During this time, she was very shallow and mean but I really needed a friend. Relunctantly, I later asked her to be a part of my wedding. Since then, we have grown apart and the last time I saw her she behaved very coldly. Now, she is getting married. In light of our last encounter, I just don't know how to respond in gift giving. I have sent a gift already costing around $60 but am torn because she was a part of my wedding. She made me feel very bad about myself and it really breaks my heart because I want to lovingly give. What should I do?
2007-03-19 07:52:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should give - - to those people you really WANT to give to, you have already gotten her a 60.00 gift that is plenty.
Do be too nice for your own good!
2007-03-19 09:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you've already met your obligation, if you want to call it that, by sending her the $60 gift, and you don't need to do more. it sounds like you guys didn't patch things up, and it also sounds like she hurt you a lot. i went through something similar, only i actually was part of my good friend's wedding before she went totally psycho and reared her ugly head. i know how that feels, and i know you must be torn, but you have to get to a point where you say enough is enough, and don't let her hurt you any more. i think it's nice of you that you even sent her a gift at all!!
2007-03-19 15:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by chickie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd forget about her and another gift. $60 is a nice gift so leave it at that. Obviously she wasn't a very good friend to begin with. I'd just let the friendship (?) fade away.
2007-03-19 14:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by lilith663 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the $60 gift will suffice. If she hasn't changed since then, I would step back and find new friends who care about you. If she has changed, maybe you can work on your relationship to make it good.
2007-03-19 14:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kewpie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you going to this wedding? I normally budget about $50/person attending the wedding and reception. If you are not attending, you have done enough.
2007-03-19 14:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Molpatrol 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as you can afford it, send a card with some $$ in it, but don't go to the wedding.
if it would put you out, don't even bother.
2007-03-19 14:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your gift is sufficient. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. You don't owe her anything.
2007-03-19 14:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋