Me and my BF have been toghether on and off for almost 9 years since High school...he blew it once in 05 and I forgave him, and well he did it again now...he lost it...insulted me, was drunk, upset and I begged him to wait till he was sober. He's repeatedly accused me of cheating...
I just don't think love is enough anymore...
Anybody with this experience? I just can't deal with this again...
He says he's sorry...it's just not good enough anymore...
2007-03-19 07:50:22 · 19 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you know what you should do. My advice is to do what you feel is best for you. It sounds like you've made up your mind anyway. I think deep down we always know what we should do and I think the best thing is to go with that. No one deserves to be disrespected and if you're fed up, then do what you gotta do. Make sure you do what is best for you and not what's best for someone else. Make your own decision and that way you can be confident that you did what was right. Don't let anyone, not even your boyfriend, dictate to you what you should do. Also, don't let the need for your relationship to survive be a factor. Let your need for peace of mind, respect, security, real love, etc. be the only deciding factors.
2007-03-19 08:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
everyone is gonna answer this question the same way
"Don't take him back if he's so rotten to you!!"
BUT.
me i would pint over it like your doing now, and really think about it. but in the end i would realize that I'm just wasting my time on someone who clearly wont change and i would breath and cry and move on. Sometimes you just need a new start. You've already given him one chance...and it caused you another broken heart.. just tell him you have nothing left for him and just walk away.
I hope you find someone who treats you so much better.
2007-03-19 15:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont take this as me blaming you not what i am doing.
Do you take care of him sexuall?Is there anything he wants you to do that you wont?
In my experience most guys will only cheat when there girlfriend stops pleasing them.Now i am not saying that you have to succumb to his every demand.
Guys quality time comes in the bedroom.If they want something.They want it.Telling him no will make him look in other places.
If that is not the case.Then give up on him.Because he is just a dog.
2007-03-19 15:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After age 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage...Never have kids out of wedlock..
Always get a Pre-Nup..
Never marry anyone with known personality or behavior problems...They will only get worse after marriage...
An "insult" is not cause for a break-up...
Get used to it..
Too long with this guy anyway..
Break off and move on...
2007-03-19 14:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you. He just has control issues. He is the one cheating, but feels better blaming you for the relationship not working. Dumb his a**. he will only hurt you more, accept that its not going to get better. He is not really sorry, if he was he would stop enjoying his beers and start enjoying you. Dont be denial.
2007-03-19 14:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by another journey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy has a problem with drinking, ditch him now. If it's because he was on a drunken stooper you may be able to work it out. That being said, lifes to short to be with a person always looking for what's wrong with you, move on to greener pastures. He'll realize someday what he had.
2007-03-19 14:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"on and off"? Puleeze. Everytime you breakup, for whatever the reason, you are saying, "I'd like to date other people" even if you don't say it.
Breaking up isn't just arguing.
Bury this zombie relationship, and stop blaming him for everything because I can tell you don't have a clue either.
2007-03-19 14:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drunken mouth speaks the sober truth. Also it has been my experience that the person that is always pointing the "cheating" finger is usually the guilty party!
2007-03-19 14:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've come to the right decision sister and you don't need someone on Yahoo! Answers to tell you what the right thing is to do. Move forward with your life.
2007-03-19 14:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He's worthless and one day he will realize what he had and he's going to feel like an *** because he wanted to play childish games. Move on with your life, theres a reason for everything!
2007-03-19 15:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by munkieluv0110 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋