I am going to throw a shower for my only niece. I have a question as far as who do I invite. I know that I invite her bridal party and the grooms parents, do I invite the mothers family (the bride is my brothers daughter) or do they thow their own shower... as well as her friends.. do they throw her a shower? Am I just supposed to invite my side of the family, his mother and the bridal party? please advise! Thanks a BUNCH!!!!!!
2007-03-19 07:45:39 · 7 answers · asked by ncbound 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is a surprise shower.... and I thought there was more then 1 shower for the bride.... usually her friends throw one, work throws one.... am I wrong????
2007-03-19 08:11:03 · update #1
How sweet are you to throw a shower for your niece?! And a surprise shower at that!
Every bride is different. Some have two showers (one for each side of the family) and/or a personal shower, and some just have one big one. Your best bet would be to talk to one of her bridesmaids or her mom - they will be able to let you know if/when she has any additional showers planned. That should help you with part of the inviting, and size of the guest list. If there's no other shower planned, the bridesmaids may even offer to help you host it!
Your next step will be to talk to her mom about the guest list. Since traditional etiquette dictates that if you're invited to a shower, you can expect a wedding invitation, you may want to check with her mom to make sure you don't accidentally put a strain on the guest list by inviting someone they weren't planning on inviting to the wedding!
I hope this helps! Best of luck to you!!
2007-03-19 09:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, relatives are not supposed to throw a shower because it would look like they're asking for more gifts. A bridal shower is traditionally thrown by the bridemaids and close female friends and family members are invited. If you invited all the female invitees to the wedding, you would have a pretty big shower and most likely the bride will not know all the women who will be attending as they could be someone else's date who was invited. Brides need to be conscious of the number of bridal showers so the same guests who are invited to several may not feel obligated to have to continually get gifts.
2007-03-19 15:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Paddington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be safe, ask the bride to make a list. She'll need to ask mom and friends if they plan on having another shower. Its not rude to have her ask; she just needs to say she's asking so people won't feel obligated to attend and send gifts for more than one shower. Also, let her know if you have a budget to go by so you don't go broke inviting a bunch of people.Chances are, her friends are going to give her a shower apart from the family ones anyhow. Good luck! Here's a link to some bridal shower games!!!
http://www.partygameideas.com/weddingshowergames.htm
2007-03-19 15:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Ask the bride to make a list. I had three showers. One included only my mom's friends. The second included some work friends mixed with another group of my mom's friends. The last shower was a couple's shower of friends. Each time I prepared the list and I consulted my mom. Family and bridal party were included in all showers.
2007-03-19 14:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by born2run 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the Bride or speak with the brides mother and see if they have something planned for that side but I think there is only one shower so I'd invite close friends and her family members and the grooms parents and siblings.
2007-03-19 14:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good etiquette dictates that all females invited to the wedding are invited to the shower.
2007-03-19 14:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Xiomy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your buget. But it would be better to invite everyone. Also give the bride some extra invitations for ppl she would like invited but you don't know.
2007-03-19 14:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋