Any Suggestions to help me make it through this?????

Question

I am 37 weeks and i think im losing it! The closer I get to my due date (April 10) the more excited i get but i am also getting more terrified! This will be my first baby and im scared to death. I have not felt this way the whole time it just started about a week ago. I am afraid of labor, that i wont get my pain med in time or that i will be in labor for 36 hours, i have heard so many stories latley seems like people like to scare the **** out of soon to be moms then they tell me stress only makes the pain worse GREAT!!! but what scares me the most is when she comes home how will i know when i have over fed her, how will i know when she is in pain, how will i know if she needs to go to the hospital? Im afraid i wont be taking good enough care of her. My mom passed away 2 years ago i guess it is because people always call on there mom for questions like that but i wont be able to. I guess my question is to the already moms does MOTHERS INSTICNT really exsist?

Answer 1

You sound like you just need to chillax! Being nervous is normal. When you bring the baby home, if she cries, either 1. feed her, 2. burp her, or 3. change her diaper. Easy. She's either gonna be sleeping, eating, crying or pooping for a while. When you get her home, she may turn a little yellow with Jaundice, that's normal too, unless she gets VERY yellow, then you should just get her checked out, not really a big deal, but DO NOT STRESS! It's funny, you would think that the older a women gets, the more cool she'd be about having a first baby. It's the opposite, the younger girls don't scream like crazy while delivering, and the older women do (I think it's too many movies or something). You'll be fine, just make sure you eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and don't forget to take your prenatal's.

Answer 2

Mothers instinct does exsist. I worried a lot. It drove my husband crazy. I couldn't wait for him to do anything. I was climbing ladders cleaning my ceiling fans, moving furniture, I put together the crib, rearranged my sons room about five times sanitized everything too much. I didn't worry about labor until the day of. I heard so many horror stories. I thought to myself why would u tell a first time mother those things. My labor was great I had an epidural. Once you get your baby home you will know when something is wrong. The worring will slow down but it wont stop. That's what mothers do, we worry. Well congrats. God Bless You and your new baby.

Answer 3

Yes, mother's instinct really does exsist and don't worry 1 more second about becoming a mother. I know, easier said than done. My son is 2 1/2 years old and being a mother is the hardest and most wonderful thing I've ever done. Labor - yeah, it hurt. Alot. But it was like a dream. I had my labor induced which caused my contractions to come alot faster. It felt like the worst cramps I've ever had in my life. But getting my wisdom teeth pulled was worse. When I first brought him home and he cried I had absolutely no idea what to do. But it doesn't take long before you get to know each other. You''ll know what cry means what or how they like to be held when thy eat. That's all it is is getting to know each other. And every age is a learning process but you go through it together. Don't worry - just enjoy every second because it goes by so fast. I am sorry about your mother but just turn to other mothers in your life - friends, family, people in the grocery store - every parent has more than enough advice and stories. I wish you the best of luck and believe me when I say you'll do fine. Becoming a mother will bring out a strength you never even knew you had.

Answer 4

Take some deep breaths and relax. It is normal to be scared. You will be fine. Millions of women have survived labor. They like to tell labor stories just as men tell fishing or hunting stories. It hurts, but the doctors know what they are doing. Trust them. (Epidurals are wonderful:) ) You will learn exactly what your baby needs and wants. There is definitely a mother's instinct. If you are nervous about not having a support from your mother, seek out an aunt or female friend that has experience. Tell them of your fears. Ask if they will help you when you need it. I'm sure that there will be people lined up with advice. If you still feel nervous, talk to your doctor. They can refer you to support groups or counselors that will help.

Most of all, Congratulations. Being a mother is the greatest gift in the world. You are entirely up to this challenge. your life will change, but in an awesome way.

Answer 5

Congrats on your upcoming blessing!!! I am a mom of 3 (a teenager, a toddler and a baby). What you are feeling - is TOTALLY normal! I have been thru it 3 times, and was scared to death at the end of each pregnancy.... will it hurt, what if the drugs don't work, what if something happens to me or the baby during labor,..... My mom passed on 14 years ago - so I don't have a mom to go to either. But I have friends who have kids, a great pediatrician and OB, both of which welcome questions - anytime. And your birthing hospital will have a nurse call you and check on you within a couple days of going home. Ask questions in the hospital, ask every nurse the same question if you want. And yes, mother's instincts do kick in. But a lot of it - is just trying different things until the baby is happy again. Eventually, you will learn his or her ways of letting you know what he or she needs.

You will be great! Enjoy that gift!!

Answer 6

I felt the same when I was about to have my first. Labor is hard, but it is not as hard as the horror stories make it seem. Chances are you will be just fine. :) I think most people just exaggerate to make themselves seem tougher. Honestly, once my little one was born, I could hardly remember the pain I was so enthralled with her. Your baby will tell you how to take care of her. Sounds weird but they do. For me the hardest part was learning to nurse. Ask the drs and nurses for help. It seemed like she was always hungry until my milk came in (about 3 days) and then she started sleeping better. I don't know if instinct exists, but you will spend so much time with her you will be able to tell if something is wrong. If you are like me, you will also spend a good amount of time just worrying. I call the drs. or other mothers and just ask.

Answer 7

Take a deep breath and trust me when I say that things will work out. Mothers Instinct is real. There will be times when you won't know what your baby wants, but you'll figure it out. I felt like you did when I was pregnant. I was overwhelmed and terrified. But I made it through and so will you. Labor isn't fun, but you will get through it just fine. You will have a beautiful baby who will be the light of your life. There will be sleepless nights and times when you think your baby will NOT stop crying. But there will also be your baby's first smile and giggles that will melt your heart. Just take it moment by moment and trust that a million moms have felt the exact same way you do right now. They all made it and so will you.

Answer 8

I am a father of six.. I have a few different babies with a few different moms. I have custody of three with my new fiance she in which has one of these three. She was what i wouldnt have called the best untill she had her own baby now her Motherly instincts have picked up and she is awesome.. I guess my answer is it isnt that frieghtning after you have the baby.. You will do just great.. If your looking for help you have taken the first step.. There are good books out there like what to expect when your expecting and off of the same brand theres one for the first years after

Answer 9

I think your fears are VERY normal. I wouldn't worry about labor at all. I've had children, and I don't even remember that part. I was far from my mother's home, when I had our first child. I think I had every fear you have, plus more! It just suddenly hit me, that I didn't know how to take care of a brand new baby! When the baby was born, I was fine. I managed to learn that if the baby vomits after I made sure he 'ate' enough, I had fed him too much! I learned that sleeping babies actually do sleep and my children did not die in their sleep. (I was constantly checking!). I learned what made my child comfortable, and did that. You will, too. There is no problem with your thinking............you are just a caring, good person, who wants to be the best mama you can be. You can always read up on 'how to' about babies, and make yourself feel more ready. As strange as it would have sounded to me THEN..............I ended up teaching parenting!

Answer 10

Yes a mothers instinct does really exist. I had twins when I was 16 years old and I feard that I would have no idea what I was doing. It all worked out just fine they are now 15 and I have 2 other children. Once the baby is born you will be just fine.