All I did was ask what he did the night before since I didnt see him and he has no problem answering but he says its not normal for me to think things when I didnt hear from him all night and I shouldnt expect him just to say, " hey babe Im not coming over tonight b/c im doing this...". Dont u think it would be just as easy for him to tell me with out me always having to ask? I know this seems small but we keep arguing about it. Especially he said that me may come over to see me instead of going out then I hear nothing.
2007-03-19 07:43:23 · 10 answers · asked by bnelly05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES. He should TELL YOU! And you shouldnt even have to worry about asking, its a conversation that he should have started. Its his problem, NOT YOURS> NOTHING is wrong with wanting to know where he was, even as just part of the conversation. Like: Hey hun, how was your night? My husband goes out with his friends sometimes and I dont care at all, but if he just left and didnt say where he was going or who with, Id worry a little bit. Thats not NORMAL at all!
2007-03-19 07:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you he's going to call you or come see you and then he doesn't, that's wrong. If he's doing other things that's ok, but he shouldn't say one thing and do the other.
It's pretty normal to know what your man is up to a pretty big part of the time (but NOT all the time) IF you have been together for a long time. If you've been together less than 6 months, this is too possessive, and you should let it go (except for when he says he's coming over and then doesn't).
Do you think he might be cheating? If not, tell him so. Reassure him that you trust him, you just like to know generally what's going on with him because he's your man. But some guys need more space than others, so if he needs space you should try to give him some. If this improves things, then great. If it doesn't, then he might just not be ready to have a real relationship and you might be better off with someone else. If you do think he's cheating then you guys have a trust problem and need to work on that.
2007-03-19 14:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by IQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you .. i mean , instead of being angry and arguing about it , he should be glad that you worry over him ... however , men think differently , they see the wrong side of some issues , he might be thinking that by asking him where he's gonna go every single day , you're limiting his freedom , you're acting as a wife who needs to know every single action her husband does .. that's why he kept telling you that it isn't normal and those things ... well , u know what .. you should let him see things in its right perspective . let him know that you 're just worried and you like to imagine the things he's doing , turn it into a sexy matter instead of a subject to argue on ... and believe me , he'll change as soon as he'll be convinced that you're doing this out of love and not out of control or selfishness ... good luck
2007-03-19 14:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate 90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is definatley fine that you are asking as long as it is not to dig for things. Most couples like to talk about what they have been doing since the last time they saw eachother so it gives things for you to talk about. As far as him always telling you what he is doing everynight that might be going to far....try making plans with your friends and family and dont wait to see what he is going to be doing...and you should see a change in his behavior..he will want to be with you more and maybe start making plans. All you have to remember is they need a taste of their own medicine.
2007-03-19 14:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by babygurlot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy is shady. Your bf should want to tell you about his time when you aren't together. If he says he might come over and then never calls or shows get rid of him. Find a guy who thinks of you as his equal, not his girl of the month
2007-03-19 14:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he may have been coming over he should at least call and tell you he's not. I wouldn't deal with that crap either. I hate waiting for people and hate it much more when they don't even show without telling me.
2007-03-19 14:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smells fishy to me..I think you two should always know where each other has been, especially at late nights out..I would ask his friends and investigate further.
2007-03-19 14:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy always tells me where he was the night before if he stayed out and i was asleep when he came home its not a big deal to him.i do think you are reading to much into him not always telling you where he is though,sometimes he just may need a guys night out
2007-03-19 14:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by marines_sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he tell you? I always tell my wife where I'm going to be and if I'm going to be late. Why? Because it is the courteous thing to do.
2007-03-19 15:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes hiding something from you.
2007-03-19 14:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋