How long should you be with someone before you start thinking about getting married?

Question

We've been together for almost nine monthes and he said about one year but is that long enough?

Answer 1

Don't rush it. You will always find something new about the person even if you've been with them for a long time. I think you should know a person for at least a year before getting married and then wait a year to get married so that you won't have any doubts. This will give you an opportunity to know them better and decide if you still love them the same as you did when you first met them. It's always good in the beginning and what you want to know is will it last for the long haul. I'm not saying wait forever, but marriage is a big step and it doesn't hurt to wait a while to be ABSOLUTELY SURE!

Answer 2

I don't think there is one right answer for this question. I think you will know deep down in your heart when you are ready. Some people may know after 6 months, while it may take other couples 3 years to get to that point. For me, it was when I couldn't imagine my life without him...there was no one better for me to grow old with, have kids with, etc. Even when we would get into a fight I knew it didn't matter in the long run- I would rather admit that I was wrong than lose him (and admitting that I am wrong is a big deal for me :) )

I think that only you will know when you are ready to get married. When you know it will be the greatest feeling ever! :)

Answer 3

Dont ever put time as an issue for your love. I was with my husband for 3 months before he proposed, he asked for my hand in marriage 5 months after we decided to get married and we got married 2 months after that. So we went out a total of 9 months when we got married and we couldnt be happier.

Answer 4

I don't think there is protocol for length of time but if you are doubting that a year is long enough then maybe you need longer then that? I was with my guy for over 2 years before the question of marriage came up. Didn't seem too early or late to me.

Answer 5

I told my mom that I was going to marry my fiance the first time I met him. It took him a little longer to realize, or to propose anyway. But we were together about 1 year before talking about getting married and then about 1/2 year before we got engaged.

Answer 6

I can say most likely a year or longer; depending on what you both want. If you both feel you're ready, then go for it! If you think you both or even either of you need more time on anything, then don't do anything just yet. Even if he doesn't need time and you do, do what YOU think is best. Period. I was enaged in 05 and the man I was with rushed us into everything. He chose my move in date, wedding date, the church, everything. I realized quickly that was a bad sign (in five months dating time) and that I was about to become "his employee" which is terrible. So I broke it off and moved on; happily moved on =) Best wishes!!

Answer 7

By now you ought to know whether you want the relationship to continue or end. As far as marriage, it takes awhile for the relationship to develop to that point. There are no magic number of months dating or age. No formula that if you do this plus this you'll get this.
If you don't have "those" feelings yet, that's okay. You may never feel this man is marriage material for you. But if you see that your feelings for him aren't getting stronger, that you don't want to live our life without him being a part of it, cut the guy loose.

Answer 8

You will know when the time is right. My husband and I dated for a year before we got engaged, but that's because that is how long we needed before we knew for sure that we were perfect for each other. I've known people that dated much longer and have dated a much shorter period of time before getting engaged. It's all about personal timing.

Answer 9

My parents were engaged at the end of their first date and married 2 weeks later, they just celebrated their 43 anniversary.

I would say that if you dont think its long enough, which from what you wrote you dont, that its not enough time. When you are ready, you will know.

Answer 10

After many many years of screw ups, loser boyfriends, ******* exes, I came to the conclusion that if I didn't want to marry the guy, he was out the door. Like, before they even asked me out, I would ask myself, would I be OK marrying this guy? If the answer was no, then I didn't go out with them. Why waste my time if I knew it wasn't going to end up any where. So, my present soon to be hubby, I knew before he ever asked me out that I would marry him, so when he was ready, I was.

It's not about what everybody else thinks is enough time, its about you taking the time to decide what you need to know. (Meaning, am I OK with him being my husband? Do I like that idea?)