RSVP etiquette?

Question

Is it rude to enter the number of people invited to a wedding on an RSVP instead of the guest filling in this part themselves?

Answer 1

It's not rude, but it's not the proper way to do it. If you want only certain people in a household to come, then put only their names on the invite. Don't leave it open to James Jones and Family...or Guest. List exactly who is invited and exactly who should be RSVPing. That way there is no mistakes about who's to come and who's not to come. Congrats and good luck.

Answer 2

I don't know if it's rude, honestly, but it won't help you at all. Let's say you invite the Smith family, which has five people. You put 5 on the RSVP card for them. But what if only three of them are coming? You'll still get an RSVP back for five, so you'll pay for two extra people who won't be there. Or, since the RSVP card says five, the Smith family might assume that they should bring five, so they'll invite two of their own guests.

Seeing the guests write who they think is coming to the wedding will help you much more in the end.

Answer 3

The proper way to address an invite is on the outside of the envelope.. like.. Mr. John Smith & Guest... he's knows he can bring a guest. If the invite says.. Mr. John Smith and no guest is added, he should know that it is only he that is invited. Same as "and Family" they know the family as well as children are invited. If you need to spell it out exactly for someone, add a little note that guests have not been included.

Answer 4

If you are trying to eliminate the possibility of your "invited" guests bringing more "uninvited" guests, make sure that on the envelope you have the exact invitees listed instead of The Jones Family. On your RSVP card, you can rename the invitees with an open ____ so that they can mark a check whether or not they are attending.

Answer 5

God no it's not rude, I totally regret not doing that! I cannot tell you how many people have called and asked me to be more specific on who was actually invited. Then when I do get replies I don't know how many people are actually RSVPing. Were all 7 in the family coming or just 2?

Got me? Save yourself a headache and be very clear, you'll thank yourself. No it's not rude. If they've planned a wedding they'll get it. If someone calls you out on it, tell them it's for catering purposes you need a head count.

Answer 6

I put

m__________________

___ number of guests will attend

___ will not be able to attend


this way I know exactly how many, and not have to guess if its the whole family or just the parents or whatever, some people have broken it up and said 2 will, 1 won't, but most have just only included the number who will be there, I don't think you can really pre-fill it out for them, it doesn't make sence to me.

Answer 7

HMMM....I'm not sure about this one. I think that you shouldn't fill it out only because lets say you invite a couple and 1 couldn't make it, there will be 2 people on the response card. I'm currently having problems myself. I invited a few people with just 1 and they've responded back with 2...a friend of mine actually put "1 or 2".

Answer 8

I entered the name for them and they check will or will not attend. It's a good way to control the guest list.

Answer 9

could be good so that you don't get extra people but could be bad because if so and so can't come then they'll think since they have another space to fill in they can bring someone else- who you may not know.
It's best just to list the names of people invited on the inner envelope.

Answer 10

I would just let them fill it in. Why would you want to prefill out the number of attending as 4 when only 2 can make it? Doesn't make much sense to me.