cheating is sleeping with another person, and it could be some vidioes and chatrooms because it is not the person you are dating and love, i mean when you do something like that you take part of yourself away that should be with your wife or husband, am i wrong for not letting my bf not watch sertin vidies and going into some chatrooms and looking at magazeies?
2007-03-19 07:41:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you are not wrong if they have to turn to other stimulants to get their jollys then they have a problem. you should be all that he needs unless you are both into it and you do it together. some use the excuse i just like to look it dont mean anything but if they look or watch then turn to you to get relief then that is wrong cause you didnt cause it. mine dont touch me if he does that. thatis a rule i set so he stopped watching and looking
2007-03-19 07:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by wlfbelcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right to encourage your wife to develop other interests. Be careful of the word "let." Just express to her your heartfelt concern. Chatrooms, in my opinion, are cesspools, for the most part. As you so eluded, so are certain videos. I hope she is not interested in pornographic sites or magazines. Usually this is an area, sadly, reserved for men. It's quite surprising, in fact, to see a man pose this question. Are you doing your part in keeping your marriage alive, romantically speaking? Buy yourself some new underwear and have fun with it. Get some cute boxers with flames on them, for Heaven's sake, and get something cooking in your own boudouir. Wax your back. Have a pedicure. Brush and floss. Draw her a hot bath and sprinkle the water with flower petals. Give her a relaxing massage and buy her something pretty and sexy. Light a candle. Turn on some soft music. Whisper words of love, even erotic words of love between husband and wife. Give her compliments in the kitchen. Tell her she looks good, her hair is pretty. Nuzzle her neck as she washes the dishes. Look at her across the room with a "come hither" wink. Keep her busy and off the computer! Better yet, help her with the dishes. Be a Romeo!!
2007-03-19 15:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have issues with your boyfriend's habits, talk to him about them (calmly). He is your boyfriend, not fiance or husband, so you have no claim of exclusivity. However, he should be considerate toward you. If he is not, it's time to throw him back and be patient for another.
Chatrooms may be no more than him "seeing" other people while he is with you (if he is only "chatting" and not participating in more lurid activities). If you have an "exclusive" relationship then chatrooms can be infidelity.
The videos and mags can indicate more serious problems within him, though. They don't represent the real world (because there is no relationship with them) and for his own sake, he should stop them.
2007-03-19 14:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by John K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one.Do you satisfy him sexually.Maybe you are not doing something that he wants.And that is his way of making up for it.
I have been with a girl now for 15 years and she treats me good,but I still like to look at porn.It is natural for a guy to want to look at porn.It is wired into us.
Talk to him and see what it is he is looking for.And assure him you can give it to him.Just might solve the problem.
2007-03-19 14:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that hurts to look at. but if i get the gyst of what your saying you don't want your bf to watch porn or go talk about sex or even look at naked photos. is that what you were saying? well if you are thats mighty dumb. men are hormonal beings we think about sex every 6 seconds thats how we're wired mentally and that design is not to be tampered with. let your bf do whatever he likes. if you aren't secure enough to beleive he cares about you then thats your problem and maybe you shouldn't be with him but if so thats all you. guys want to see naked bodies no matter what chick it belongs to, it's a thing we have in our heads. it's acting on those baser instincts that you need to worry about.
2007-03-19 14:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First work on your insecurity and self esteem. Not every thing in world competition against you for your BF. If he truly loves you and respects you, this should not be issue. he is not you and is not thinking like you. If you dont trust your self to be faithful to him, dont through it it him.
2007-03-19 14:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by another journey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is when the trust and loyalty in a reletionship is broken. some couples let stuff like that happen in their reletionship happen and others don't. It depends on your reletionship and what you agree is acceptable and what isn't.
2007-03-19 14:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by geniveve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how far ur relationship goes with someone u love ,,,,,,,wot u do not cheating
2007-03-19 14:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋