He says hes really loves me and cant stop thinking about me, but i dont know wether it will ruin our close relationship now and i think my friends will disagree??? But i do like him and care about him but i dont want to ruin what we have, but it might be a great relationship i just dont know!
Please anyone help me girl or boy that has any ideas or has been in the same situation please post to me!
2007-03-19 07:40:02 · 17 answers · asked by foxylady_tiff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is horrible when a close friend decides to tell us that they love us and if we dont go out with them then we cant have their friendship.. The same thing happened to me twice and I stupidly agreed to go out with them because I still wanted them in my life but it didnt feel right and I wasnt happy and when we broke up I didnt want to see them again because it ended up very messy..I wished that I was strong and told them........."No way...you cant blackmail me.....who needs you!!!!!!!!!!! " Please dont give in....u WILL regret it.
2007-03-26 23:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine that you and this guy do start a romantic relationship. It has to succeed or else, after the breakup, you have to continue to see him as a friend with all the history of your breakup still bothering you.
Here's the thing about dating: you are dating someone until you break up. If you don't break up, you get married, or if you're really stupid about it, you live together and pretend you're almost married and THEN you break up.
Can you protect yourself from being hurt in a breakup? Probably not. So are you willing to gamble for that kind of future with this guy or just go on being really good friends? I'd choose to stay friends myself. You don't have a whole lot of love for him, except as a friend, so you'd just be keeping yourself busy until the person came along who would be worth breaking up for.
Not a good deal for this guy. Not a great deal for you, either. If you loved this guy, you wouldn't be as concerned about what your friends think. You know that they know you pretty well and they know the relationship wouldn't be going anywhere.
2007-03-27 11:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, it was the best thing that I have ever done, I was friends with my boyfriend for 11 years before we got together, I had other boyfriends and he was always there to take care of me when them relationships went wrong.
He told me that he really cared about me after my last relationship and I realised that I always liked him more than a friend as well so we got together.
To be honest we have had some weird reactions from mutual friends but nothing so bad that it was a serious problem, mostly people finding it weird but hey they have all got used to it now.
Go for it, you really have nothing to lose, cos you are friends first you are not going to do anything to hurt each other so if it does end it shouldnt be for any reason why you cant stay friends after it all....
good luck.... x
2007-03-19 16:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by EveyM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah.
People always told me my bast mate fancied me, but i didn't believe them, and i totally didn't fancy him. Then, one night he was acting funy and i was so worried i had done something to hurt is feelings or something then i realised i fancied him. i spoke to him about it, and he admitted he liked me too.
We took it really slow at first, and it was a bit stange kissing my best mate. but then it all took off and we were inseperable. We've been together for 2 1/2 years and we moved in together in august, and weve never been happier. We want to get married one day, but we're going to wait untill we have a bit more money and have finished uni.
It's by far the best relationship i've ever been in. I can tell hi anything, i mean ANYTHING and i don't have to worry bout him thinking i'm silly or anyhitng. I burp and fart and everything, and he doesn't care. i lost a close member of my family last year, and he took time off college and work to stay at home with me and look after me, because i felt like i couldn't even get out of bed. He even did all the housework while i was feeling lousy. He's an absolute angel!
It is a risk on your relationship, but i found it was well worth it.
2007-03-26 09:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been there. I was best friends with a guy for a year before we got together. He helped me get through a hard break up and I developed feelings for him. We were together for 2 years and I still believe we were supposed to be together but he's being stubborn now. I broke things off then and he continued to love me for a couple years before falling for someone else. Now I realize I never stopped loving him and he's to involved with the other girl even though she's played head games with him the last few months.
Our friendship is kinda in the air right now because of her. But I wouldn't take back those 2 years for anything in the world....besides maybe a second chance to make things work this time.
So it could be worth it. Just listen to your heart, and make sure it's your heart instead of head......trust me. Go for it.
2007-03-19 15:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mabie you should talk to your friends about it, they can give you the best oppinions because they know you both well. I was in a similar situation once, although I wasnt that close to the boy, we were just friends, but you being best friends with him might just help the situation because you can have a proper relationship, I broke up with the boy just because we didnt work as a couple, and we are still friends now, but if you are so close it might be a great relation ship!
2007-03-19 14:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be optimistic,If you like the guy and he has a great personality,theres nothing to be scared off,If it didnt work out,give yourself space and when youre both ready bring back the friendship,If incase the friendship will never ever be restored just learned to forgive each other cause in due time evrything will be alright
2007-03-27 12:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya i think i understand where your coming from. My brothers best friend told me he really liked me and wanted to go out...I doubted it so much, he was 5yrs older than me, my brothers best mate and a bit of a bad boy. I felt awful avoiding it so I went out to the cinema with him. We had a great time but I still had my doubts. Everyone kept telling me to go for it but I just kept thinking what will people think of us? But then I just went for it and he askd me out...we were together for 9 months and we had a fantastic time together.
Iv learnt that dont listen to anybody else...do what you thinks best for you...Its you thats going to get hurt or thats going to be happy. Only you can decide the outcome. If your friends aren't happy for you then they must have issues because all my friends stood by me. And so will yours if they are true friends. I hope this helps and if you do get together i hope ur relationship is as fab as ours was! Good look! xx
2007-03-25 12:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by chaos4eternity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best relationships ya can have is with your friends i know alot ov people who have gone out with other people but thats all there is just bf an gf nothing really to say they were friends aswell. but if you can get a lad who you like and can be friends with well its a bonus i say go 4 it if ya friends were proper friends then they would b happy that your happy.
2007-03-27 10:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by heather p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best guy friend was in love with me, however, i never looked at him in that way. he would hang around me all the time, we were so close, he knew EVERYTHING about me and i him; he was my person. one day i decided why not see where his love can take me! he turned out to be the most wonderful man i ever was involved with in my life. unfortunately outside forces caused our break up however, he is still my best friend forever!
2007-03-27 12:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋