help ... iget a little agitated when my girl friend keeps asking whenther i love her ..I admit recently i have been a little busy with my personal life definitelty not courting girl ..i just want to have time to be alone ..How would you tell your girl please don't ask anymore on whther i love her anot ..it 's sick.what is wrong ith her.. anyone, please advsie me
2007-03-19 07:35:26 · 24 answers · asked by the_road_i_am_on 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she prob doesn't feel secure in the relationship
especially with you being busy so she needs
you to tell her how you feel quite often to reassure her
that you are still serious about the relationship etc.
you just need to be honest with her, tell her you have been busy
and need some alone time, but it doesn't change the way
you feel about her, maybe once a week or every few days
send her a cute text that will make her smile and i promise
she will back off....good luck!
2007-03-19 07:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever told her that you love her? If not, she shouldn't be asking because it's wrong to pressure you to say that if you're not ready to.
If you have said it before and have just stopped saying it lately, then she's asking because your behavior has changed and she can't tell whether it's because of something else in your life or because your feelings for her have changed. Whether you realize it or not, your behavior may have changed, and a woman will always notice that kind of thing.
From the way you're talking, it sounds like you don't love her. If you did, then you would not mind telling her so (if you were telling her on your own she wouldn't need to ask), and you would want to spend time with her. If you're not interested in being with her, then break it off so she can go be with someone who wants her. It's wrong for you to string her along. If you do care for her then you need to start acting like it, because she has a right to feel insecure about your relationship if you love her but are acting like you don't.
2007-03-19 14:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by IQ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for some reason (which you stated) is the reason she is asking. However, it does seem as if she is insecure.
Whether you want to be alone or not, you have to realize that you are in a relationship. Each party needs a certain amount of attention.
Stop being selfish and take her out somewhere. Ask her "why" does she keeps asking you that question. Then reassure her that you do (and act like it).
2007-03-19 14:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though you call her your girlfriend, obviously ou are not in love with her. Your actions say, and your words confirm, you really don't care about her.
If you think you are just going through a small funk (and will be in love with her again) tell her that.
If there is no chance, then let her go and be friends. Maybe later it will be right for the two of you in a year or two.
Read a few of these for clarity:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/index.html
Or read Greg B's book on 'He's just not that into You'
2007-03-19 14:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women need the security of knowing they are not wasting their time with someone that's not in love with them.They need reassurance, and it's a good policy not to wait to be asked, tell them on a regular basis to keep doubt from creeping in. Do little things to show you care, like buying her things, or just call her to just tell her you are thinking of her. Treat her with respect and dignity and she will be the most important person in your life. If however you don't really care about making her happy then get a dog, they will love you no matter how you treat them.
2007-03-19 14:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do love her, answer with "Of course I love you " and then explain it just the way you put it on this board ... "I have been so busy and I would like to spend more time with you, but I also need time to myself." Also let her know that you find it a little troubling that she doubts your love this much and needs constant reassurance.
If you don't love her, let her go. She obviously wants something out of the relationship you aren't going to be able to give her, and it isn't worth your or her time to continue playing games. There are a lot of girls who appreciate a casual date now and again without a love relationship attached. Take one of them to dinner and drinks instead.
2007-03-19 14:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Telling a girl you love her is kind of like giving a dog a treat after he does a trick. You have to do it or else they will stop performing for you. I know this sounds bad, but it's true. Only say it if you love her though. Otherwise like the above said, let her go. Don't lead her on because that is cruel.
2007-03-19 14:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls and guys are different when it comes to relationships. Sounds like you have someone who needs the occasional reassurance, not that she doesn't know that you love her, but needs to hear it from you from time to time. If you can afford it, send her a flower every single day with an "I love you" note until she gets sick of it and then you're even.
2007-03-19 14:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she asks so much because you're not answering her? Next time she asks, sit her down and tell her the truth. If you do love her, tell her that you do but you're really busy with your life right now. If you don't, tell her you're not interested in continuing or maintaining a relationship.
2007-03-19 14:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has confidence issues. There isn't much you can do except to reassure her about your feelings. If you are having trouble doing this then you might want to re examine how you feel about her and maybe let her go if she is getting in the way of your personal life. (Isn't a girlfriend supposed to be part of your personal life?)
2007-03-19 14:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋