My best friend is in high school and she has a bf in college.they have been dating,off and on,for 3.5 years now. and she claims they used to have a really good realtionship.but now he emotionally abuses her and it kills me.and hes not afraid to grab her.he tells her who she can hang out with and stuff.she claims shes in love with him but I dont think she is.she just trys to avoid the subject. shes not a fool like this story makes her sound, shes well known, sweet,pretty and gets really good grades.when i talked to her today she showed me that she is engaged.shes probubly going to end up saying yes.maybe its all she knows but i no of so many guys who would date her and be good to her.she deserves a lot better. I tell her that and she just sticks with him.i dont want her to get mad at me. please i dont know how to help her.i love her to death.i dont know if i should just be there for her.or stop her.. real advice.
2007-03-19 07:35:16 · 3 answers · asked by ryanssdfisufd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be there for her. You clearly care about her a lot, and that will do more for her than trying to convince her that she is in a bad relationship. Sometimes people get stuck in situations which they fail to see are becoming increasingly negative for them, but change cannot come from the outside. If you push her too much, you are much more likely to hurt your relationship with her than to help her see that her current boyfriend is not good for her. Stand by her, be a friend when she needs one, and support her when she needs it. That is really all you can do, and when it comes down to it, it is probably what she needs. Just because she is not responding to your concerns, it does not mean she is not listening to you. It sounds like she has a lot to work out for herself, and your continued care and support may help her make the right decision in the end, and when she makes a final decision, the two of you may be that much closer because of your friendship during these times. Good luck.
2007-03-19 07:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by wedantil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-20 23:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't stop her. But whenever the two of you are together, you can pound it into her head that she is beautiful, can get any guy that she wants, and doesn't deserve to be treated that way. And that if he really loved her, he'd respect her. She may turn against you, but not for long!
2007-03-19 14:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋