i have been with my girlfriend for a year in a half. we get along great and always have fun togeather, but i dont feel any sexual attraction. i dont know if i am not in love, or if this is just what happens after a certain period of time. i dont want to throw away a good thing, however, if i am not in love i must do whats right. any advice?
2007-03-19 07:27:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, if she's your girl, I guess so.
Good luck, man! Just follow ur heart.
2007-03-19 07:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question...well sex isnt everything...think about this...lets say you have sex with someone then after a while the sex gets boring....then all thats left is their personality and how much you guys get along and have fun...now if they dont have that 2nd option and you not attracted to them sexually after a while then what does that leave the relationship?....but if you get along great and have fun, but no sexual attraction then thats ok....thats how most relationships are anyways after2 or 3 yrs...even marriage...
2007-03-19 07:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love and you don't need to have sex to keep a relationship, if that was true, that would be called infatuation because you were atracted by apperience, and that's the so called "love at first sight". Just talk to her and see. Remember, abstinence is the best way! Do you feel that you need to see her every day, if that's so you are in love, give more details about how you feel. If you were to marry her, sex can be good to hold a marriage but, right now, this doesn't matter, wait till its the right time. K?
2007-03-19 07:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Magui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine spending the rest your life together (not marriage-wise, but in general)? Would you be willing to sacrifice sexual gratification just to be with her? Do you feel like you can be so honest that it hurts with her, and still be together? If she disappeared, would it devestate you? Can you imagine life happier without her? With someone else? Would you leave her if someone else better that you felt attracted to, more connected to, came along? Answer these questions, and you'll know. If you would choose her out of a thousand women not because of the consequences of not choosing her, but because you want to be with her and only her, and be content with your decision, you love her.
2007-03-19 07:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dayton S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does sexual attraction and love mean the same thing to you? you say u are not sexually attracted to her, then u say u dont love her. i personally dont think its the same thing. love is much deeper, it is acceptance of a person, wanting the best for the other person, being able to put their needs above yours without hesitation. and remeber looks fade.
but i do know people that have ended up marrying someone they did not find attractive and regretted it.
2007-03-19 07:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual attraction isn't the most important thing in love. However, you still have to be attracted enough to have sex with her, or it won't work. If you have no sex desire for her, then the relationship will fail. I really think you need to talk to her and figure this out together.
2007-03-19 07:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide if your in love or not...
i've been with my bf for 2 years and we still have
lots of sexual attraction for each other
so i know that it doesn't happen for all couple that it goes
away after a certain amount of time
it seems like you love her more as a friend?
you just need to search your feelings write them down etc
to figure out what you want.
goodluck!
2007-03-19 07:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love each other and care for each other sexual attraction has nothing to do with you two. You may feel it later on!!
2007-03-19 07:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to sound rude, but it doesn't sound like love. If you have to stop and think about it, it's not love. If you're inlove with her, you'd just get that warm feeling inside of you with each thought of her.
Write down pros and cons of breaking up or not. Let your heart decide
2007-03-19 07:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dating someone that you are not sexually attracted to? Sex is a very important aspect of a healthy relationship...handle it pls...does she tell you that she loves you? How old r u?
2007-03-19 07:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by keisha_ke11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you love her pesonality and her as a whole, but maybe you just don't find her attractive anymore. You have a lot to think about.
2007-03-19 07:32:51 · answer #11 · answered by Titi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋