My boyfriend is not that smart, sometimes I feel like I have to explain things over and over again! There is a lot more things he does that I absolutly hate. Should he try to change some of things to make me happy, or should I accept him for who he is and deal with it? What do you think?
2007-03-19 07:27:04 · 16 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess it all depends on what the bad qualities are??? I for example will accept someones bad along with the good and yeah it is irritating but i'm sure i have some irritating qualities too(maybe)LOL!! i realize i am not perfect so i do not expect him to be either..like my fiance--sometimes gets a little temper when irritated and i realize hes not mad at me..so i just leave him alone and let him cool down then he is fine cause if not sometimes he would snap at me but i learned he is the type that just likes to be left alone..but smart..hmm..try just explaining it to him and you know you could be showing him alot of things he really doesnt understand..work with him.
I say if he is a great guy like mine in all other aspects and little quirky habits get to you..maybe just talk to him..maybe he doesnt know those things irritate you..so i would say yes deal with him and his ways if not bad or harmful.
2007-03-19 07:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by ccrazeegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is smart, just kind of dense. That's the way I am: I get excellent grades and write well, but say ''Huh?'' about a million times and frustrate all my teachers. Don't underestimate him.
Since this is a relationship, you need to make sure you can deal with his bad traits. Now is the time to decide (and you're the only one who CAN decide this) whether you really love him, or if you're just hanging on to him.
Also keep in mind: lovers change each other. If he really loves you, he'll change to make you happy. If you really love him, you'll change around him. But people are people, and some things about them never change.
....If you absolutely can't get along with this boyfriend, there are so many people you could get along with better, but just remember that no one is perfect.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-19 07:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Erica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should accept the things and deal with it if u really love him and want to be with him you knew about those things before u got with him right?. When I love someone i try to look past the small stuff anyways if u worry about small things it just makes a big thing that never had to be there in the first place. If they bother u all the much talk to him about it maybe he will try and change it for you but you should never expect someone to change for you it wont work.
2007-03-19 07:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should try and change some things but if he can't then you need to learn to deal with them or move on if you can't handle it. Especially like explaining things, if you learn to deal with it, you will get use to breaking things down the first time you explain instead of explaining again a second time.
2007-03-19 07:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a touchy situation. If you do love him then i believe that you should love his as he is...bad qualities and all. Because everyone has bad qualities and sometimes we just have to deal. But on the other hand, maybe he could change just a little to make you happier. Maybe you should just talk to him and then see what happens....Best of luck!!!
2007-03-19 07:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Libby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u can change someone that in not so bright.Maybe you should be more open minded.Try asking him if there are some things he would like for u to change for him.How would u feel?U can't just deal with it..Imagine if u get deeper into the relationship,it's just gonna get worse.Just ask yourself...why did I go out with in the 1st place?
2007-03-19 07:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont really love him then...Real love is excepting that person for who they are...just like they except you for who you are...a person shouldnt have to ever change for anyone...just like you should never change to make someone else happy...if they love you..they love all of you no matter if they are intelligent or not..because when your in love you dont think about those flaws because you dont care.....Eventually in the long run your going to seek a person who is more of your ideal mate meaning someone who picks up easily, smart, etc etc,. I dont know how long this is going to last...because either your going to deal with it except it or not you have that choice, but this is not real love at all
2007-03-19 07:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should only change things about himself he feels need changing, to better himself in general...not just for you.
If you cannot accept him for who he is, as he is, then he's not a good match for you.
Don't get with someone as a "settle" and think you can change them into the person you want them to be...be with someone you totally like and accept (flaws and all).
2007-03-19 07:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to change a person. If you can not stand him now, you will not be able to put up with him when you get married.
2007-03-19 07:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋