Well I will ask for advice and I dont want rude answers either. This is a huge problem. Yesterday morning about 7 am I went to the store and came back home to find my fiancee and my 3 year old daughter both tied up and gagged on the floor. My fiancee was half naked. They both were shook up and when my fiancee came round she told me two men broke in and robbed us. They stole several things and held down my fiancee and raped her. They also cut my daughter on her little legs and she is till sore but thankfully they did not rape her. The police ran tests and are investigating. Thankfully the hospital says she is not pregnant and has not contacted anything but all of us are shook up. My fiancee was so scared last night she slept in the bed with me (since we are not yet married we dont sleep together) and my daughter had to take a dose of medicine to sleep. But I would appriacate any advice how to help my shaken family? Please dont recommend the police they are already investigating.
2007-03-19 07:26:29 · 16 answers · asked by Martin A Neville 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To the one who said I ma lying because test results would not be back so quickly all the blood samples were taken yesterday and we got results today. And tot he one who said the police would ahve offered support they didnt. This is a true horror my familt is going through. If you dont believe it dont post. I really am in need of help.
2007-03-19 07:54:30 · update #1
take them both to counseling. The police should have suggested that. Call them and tell them you want to be refereed to a counselor especially for your daughter.
2007-03-19 07:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a crisis center. I have 2 little girls and this really upset me, take them both to see someone, it's so important. Change your locks or move if you can. Have your fiancee to take a course in self defense, it may make her feel like she's in control again. I am so glad your daughter is ok. I am very sorry this has happened to you. The hospital should've given you a number for the crisis center. Google crisis centers in your area. Take care of them.
2007-03-19 08:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some things around your home to improve your security. Buy a security system or change your locks. Get some family counseling from a good therapist. Your fiance and daughter could both be traumitized from this for a very long time. I'm surprised your fiance wanted to be anywhere near you.
2007-03-19 07:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by kelloggs322 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing a wonderful job so far. Love your fiance and make sure that they know they are safe. Get a new security system or something they need to feel secure or they will always be looking behind their backs. Make sure your daughter is all right talk to her about what happen. This is something that could affect her for the rest of her life.
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 07:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by bookworm87 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the rape crisis center!
SAVES Rape Crisis Center
Quick Links To: Maine Sex Offender Registry. Sexual Assault. Myths and FAQ's ... 1-800-871-7741. Local Cell Phone Callers: 778-0110 (Franklin County, ME ... email ...savesrapecrisis.org/index.htm - 15k - Cached
They have trained therapist on the phone line, and will talk to your wife anytime day or night.
This sounds horrid.
of course they are shook up.
Family conseling would be a good start.
2007-03-19 07:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look up victim support, in local phone book, or ask at the doctors for counseling, can you fiancee talk to her family or friend. just be there for each other. ask her what would make her feel more secure, changing locks extra locks , or get her a rape alarm, your little girl just time and lots love and hugs. i hope they catch the scum who did this
2007-03-19 08:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you urgently need to see your doctor and get some counseling. talk is good .your doctor may have other suggestions for you to try. this is a horrid crime i really hope they catch the villain and make them pay. i know it will not help you much at this time but time is a great healer you will live on to think of it less. i wish you and your family well.
2007-03-19 07:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i'm seriouly sorry for you guys and hope for the best but i think the only thing that could help you be a psycologist. especially for your little girl cause she had to witness everything. i'm really hoping they will gat better .being rape is the worst thing that can happen to a women but with the right help she going to get over it.
2007-03-19 07:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by marcnancy1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's pretty serious. Please check out RAINN.org. They may be able to help your fiancee with counseling as that is what she will need. Please be there for her in everything that you do, because both your daughter and fiancee will feel vulnerable for a long time. And, please get a good lawyer once these creeps are found. They need to be locked away.
2007-03-19 07:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by nicoleblingy2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BEEN DER N ITS AN AWFUL THING TO GO THRU. FIRST, PUT THEM IN COUNSELING ASAP!!! N U HAVE TO BE VERY PATIENT WITH UR FIANCEE. SHE AND UR DAUGHTER ARE BOTH GOIN TO NEED ALOT OF ATTENTION, UNDERSTANDING N LOVE FROM THEIR FAMILY. AND ITS GONNA BE A LONG RECOVERY N U HAVE TO DEDICATE URSELF ON HELPIN THEM FEEL SAFE N SECURE AGAIN. IT MAY TAKE MONTHS N EVEN YEARS. IT TOOK ME ABOUT 5 YRS TO FEEL SAFE AGAIN N IT TOOK ME 4YRS TO BE ABLE TO LOOK AT A MAN N NOT HATE HIM. EVEN DOE NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME I SAW IT LIKE DAT. I COULDNT GET CLOSE TO NO MAN WAT SO EVER. IT WAS REALLY REALLY HARD... N PLEASE BE THERE WITH HER WHEN THEY ARE QUESTIONIN HER. ITS HARD TO TALK TO UR FAM BOUT WAT HAPPEND N ESPECIALLY WEN UR SAYIN OVER N OVER AGAIN TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE N PEOPLE U DONT EVEN KNOW SO IF SHE HAS U BY HER SIDE IT MAY MAKE IT ALIL EASIER FOR HER TO TALK... I DID IT ALL ALONE IT WAS REALLY HARD... I SUFFERED DEPPRESSION N I WAS HOSPITALIZED TOO BUT I ALSO TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE... SO GO TO HER THERAPY SESSIONS DERS ALOT U CAN DO TO HELP N U WONT KNOW WAT TO DO UNLESS U GO... N I KNOW DER IS BECAUSE DEY WOULD TELL ME DIFFERENT EXERCISES ( NOT PHYSICAL ) DAT I CAN DO AS WELL WITH UR PARTNER IF U HAVE ONE. N TALK TO UR DAUGHTER TELL HER WAT SHES FEELIN IS NORMAL N ITS OK... DOES POEPLE WERE MEAN, MAD PEOPLE BUT NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME.
2007-03-19 07:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by mperez637 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋