My daughter seems scared to initiate friendships. Although she is beautiful and dresses in a stylish way, she is convinced that boys find her to be ugly. She is an honors student and earns straight A's. She tends to take things very seriously. She spends most of her free time studying and doing chores. I want her to get out a little and have some fun. Ideas?
2007-03-19 07:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by Gab U 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Introduce her to Alcohol!
It Does wonders for me!
2007-03-19 07:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemiss Me 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She's 15. She doesn't have to worry about boys yet. Let her learn to have fun without boys. Maybe she should join a sports team, or her school theater group, or some other extracurricular activity. That way, she'll have a new hobby. I think the problem with young girls today is that they're growing up too fast. Don't be in such a hurry to see her mature. She just started high school right?
I've seen a lot of girls ruin their lives because of relationships. I didn't date during high school, and it was one of the best times in my life and I made friends that I still am friends wih now that I'm on college.
I regret every relationship I've ever had except the one I'm in now and we plan to get married.
Dating too young can inhibit your little girl from finding out who she is as an individual. She'll learn more about independence. By joining groups full of people with the same interest, they'll already have things in common and things to talk about. She'll accomplish even more than she already has.
2007-03-19 07:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by misslissa5365 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My own daughter was EXACTLY the same way. We encouraged her to get out and try to become involved in things other than her school work and National Honor Society. When she turned 17 and was looking for a job, we were hopeful that she would meet new people and get a little more involved in life. One of her first applications was to a little restaurant not far from our house (the LAST job we thought she would go for was a waitress - where you have to talk to people etc). And she got it! She's been a waitress for a little over a year now and WOW what changes! I tell everyone this is the last job I every pictured my daughter in but it has done WONDERS for her. She has blossomed into a social butterfly from her delicate cocoon. I hope your daughter does the same. Try not to worry (I know how hard that is), if she is like my daughter she will turn out GREAT. They actually sound like identical twins so I have a lot of hope for her. You can also get her involved in your church youth group or find things she likes to do (but in groups) - does she like to read - have her join the local book club (at the library or book store) or if she likes sports (join a sports club), if she likes animals have her volunteer at the animal shelter, or if she likes helping people she could volunteer at the hopsital/hospice. When she likes something and is comfortable she will forget her shyness and relationships will happen naturally. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-19 07:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I ever did for my daughter's self-esteem was put her in gymnastics. It taught her, not only how to work well with other girls, but how to win and lose well. The transition from a shy girl to a confident one was amazing to see. All your daughter needs is a reason to feel special about herself. Maybe a sport or other group where her talents can shine will help bring that out of her. :)
2007-03-19 07:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what my father did...kick her out of the house, not literally, but just tell her that she has to go somewhere other than here. get her a bike. i used to love to ride. but really, if she is shy, that is just her personality. feeling ugly is just a growing pain. maybe try getting her involved in some afterschool activities like debate.
2007-03-19 07:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by MardyMar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
let her be her .
ask her if she wants to go shopping ,ask her to have some friends over you could take em to a movie or something at least she is home studing rather then being into drugs or BOYZ !!!!!
when I was 15 my dad took me shopping I didnt mind it was fun
2007-03-19 07:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by mommaknowsbest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is the perfect daughter. dont mess her up by giving her to boys. good luck and happy life.
2007-03-19 07:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by helloguy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell her to meet me....
2007-03-19 07:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋