is it ok to have sex on first date?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 2

No one can answer this, although I notice some people have given it their best attempt. When you ask about something being 'ok' your question isn't one of fact, but belief. Since without the availability of fact, all you can rely on is another persons belief that it would or would not be acceptable. This is purely subjective and remains completely relative to the individual. Much like the knee-jerk reactions seen here, if you were to ask a person with schizo affective disorder if murder is 'ok' they would say "Yes, of course it is". By definition, an action isn't considered maladaptive unless it causes you anxiety before you do it and then guilt afterwards. A perfect example are paraphilias, or more commonly referred to as a 'fetish'. These actions are considered individualistically normal unless you suffer anxiety when you think about performing the act, and then guilt once you have finished. Apply the same rational to your question of having sex on the first date, and you'll get the answer that is right for you.

Answer 3

I will tell you from first hand there is no better of an Icebreaker. Most people will tell you that you can only do that if you don't want a serious relationship.....it is not entirely true......on the second or third date don't have sex. You want to make sure that you guys can get along a different level as well.....I started dating someone and had sex the first night doing this will create an extremley sexual relationship.....I say go for it....it might just make it hard to balance out other aspects of the relationship

Answer 4

i think it depends on if you want to have a relationship. if you want to just have a one night stand, then obviously. if you think you would like to have a meaningful relationship, then no. i don't think that anyone truly respects someone that they sleep with on the first, second, or even third date. in some cases, that might be wrong, but for the most part, sex should be saved for after the connection is made. sex shouldn't be used for making the connection. i have nothing against people who are sexually "free" as long as they are responsible and both partners are aware of the others' intentions. all in all though, sex on the first date isn't for me.

Answer 5

It really depends on who you're with. If you know that you dont really want a long term relationship with this person then I guess it's fine, as long as your partner is okay with first-date sex. If you really like this person and want to be with them for a while, first date sex is not a very smart thing to do as it is quite possible that you may never speek to this person ever again, even if they did actually want to have sex with you. Either way, unless you're looking to have a child, make sure that you're having protected sex!

Answer 6

Don't have a sex after a first date, really! If you do, it's all the magic and sexy tension which is dropped.

Wait for a few dates before engaging into it. This will give you time to build up complicity, attraction and love.

Good luck! :-)

Answer 7

The point of a first date is to determine if that peson is someone you could spend the rest of your life with... and how can you determine that without having sex?

It's more than okay - its the whole point for having the date....

Answer 8

It depends on what you are looking for. If you are thinking long term then I suggest no, you may not be taken as serious relationship material. If you are looking for just a "feel good" moment and nothing more until the next time you get called on or you call on him then this is where this plays in really nice.

Answer 9

I am one for no sex until you have papers! I for one care about my body and don't care to have a one night fling and wake up with a present I didn't care to receive ever. There are so many STD carrying parasites as I refer to them since they have no spines and just want sex and will lie to you about not being a carrier of disease. One of my relatives was too trusting and she now has herpies due to it so let it be a lesson, no matter what you and your 2nd brain might have on the agenda for the night there are always bigger issues to consider.

Answer 10

If that's all you want out of the situation. Lasting relationships usually don't start that way. And women might get the wrong idea about what you mean when you ask for a "date".

Answer 11

It all depends on how you feel about having sex on the first date. but me personally i would wait to have sex to see if that person is for me and ot just the sex.