we have been going out for almost 6 months already.
He says he is not happy with me anymore.
And he wants to break up with me.
But i love him soo much i can't live without him.
He says our relationship is not working out anymore.
what should i do?
i love him too much to let him go.
what should i do to convince him to not break up with me?
2007-03-19 07:11:36 · 26 answers · asked by Cynroddddddd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him as much as you say you do, you want him to be happy. He's telling you straight up that he's not happy... maybe it might just take him a little while to find out that it isn't YOU that he's not happy with? Give him some space, don't go all stalker-chick on him. Guys hate that.
2007-03-19 07:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make a person stay with you whose feelings have changed or maybe weren't even that strong to begin with. Let him go and start to live your life again. You don't want to let go of something you are so comfortable with, but you certainly CAN life without him. Go join some clubs (a reading group with your local library or book store, or volunteer at the animal shelter or library (read to the blind), go join a sports club (volleyball is a whole lot of fun) and you will be able to get over him before you know. Allow yourself a good cry (put on a kettle of hot water for tea, run a hot bath and soak in a bubble bath with a good book). You will feel better when you get out. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-19 14:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, it takes two to tango, and he doesn't want to dance anymore. You don't really get a choice in this - he has a right to leave if he wants to - he is unhappy and doesn't want to be with you anymore.
Ask him WHY he is unhappy, and what he feels is wrong with the relationship, and offer to work on fixing those problems together. If it's something that can't be fixed, than you're just going to have to accept that this relationship was not meant to be.
And yes, you CAN live without him - you can even be happy and independent and self-respecting without him, so don't think your dramatic claims are impressive to anyone with experience in love.
2007-03-19 14:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, it takes both people to keep a relationship working rightly. If one doesn't want to play anymore, and the other can't convince him/her to continue then that relationship ends. Now, you may be feeling a lot of pain because your playmate has stopped playing, but you shall survive it, and attract another, and perhaps better player than the one you are losing. Let him go!!! Listen, there is a biblical passage I want you to think about. "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning".
2007-03-19 14:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tunney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's his problem. He says he's not happy with you....were you responsible for his happiness? NO WAY!!
If he wants to move on, there's nothing you can do short of kidnapping him, but I don't sugest this. Again, why be with someone that doesn't want you? or who blames you for HIS unhappiness?
Trust me you COULD live without this insensitivity. I think his brain is not working out, because he's insensitive. You need to give him a strong, solid kick in the butt, and convince him he's a moron for blaming others for what a scummy, insensitive person he really is.
2007-03-19 14:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince him Honey. He's made up his mind. What you have to focus on is getting over him. You can live without him and you will. Allow yourself to cry. You'll probably do that for awhile. Allow yourself to listen to sad songs and look at photographs, but don't call him. Talk to your friends and people who care about you. You will get over him eventually. If you feel like you might hurt yourself then speak to a counselor or doctor immediately. You just have take it day by day, but it will get better. Good luck.
2007-03-19 14:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't convince or force anyone into not doing or doing something.. why would you want to be with someone who is not happy with you and does not love you the same way you love them? if he does not want to be there, you need to let him go. You will feel sad for a while.. but just sorround urself with friends and fun activities to keep occupied...at the end its for your best.. hope you listen to some advice.. you will look back and appreciate that you let go of him.. good luck =)
2007-03-19 14:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by GIGI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to break up with you and you love him so much ask him what went wrong. ask him lets try to give it one more shot and see where it goes from there. If he dont want to try to make it work let him go. You can do better. You did all you can do and if he wants to act stupid then thats him. He going to miss you when you leave and he's going to want you back. Just give him a little space. Good Luck!
2007-03-19 14:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by ga_latest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be happy if he decided to stay with you because of pity. Live a little. You are young and there are other hotties to have fun with and fall in love with. Chances are someone has a crush on you right now. You just have to open your eyes and realize that you don't want to be around those who obviously don't want to be around you.
2007-03-19 14:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let him go..6 months is not very long rly its not..now if was like 2 yrs or 3 then i would be like convince him but you cant do that after only 6 months..just let him go and move on..you can move on..i did after bein with the love of my life ( i thought that then) for 11 months..you will be okay trust me
2007-03-19 14:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by [[{Kendra ♥'s Quincy}]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋