my ex and i broke up 2 1/2 months ago and we havnt talked at all. hes been calling me lately but i havent been around to except his calls. i still have really strong feelings for him and i found out that after i didnt return his call he hooked up with someone. i've been hanging out with someone too but no hook ups. After i found out i got really jelous, is that normal or obsessive?
2007-03-19 07:10:13 · 27 answers · asked by Kimberlyan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normal.
My advice: Join the Army, Build a bridge, GET OVER IT
2007-03-19 07:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal however keep in mind he's your ex for a reason. He also hooked up with someone since he didn't hear from you so what did he really want? If he was trying to get back with you why would he have hooked up with someone just because he didn't talk to you? He would've kept trying to talk to you or even see you. You've hung out with someone who more than likely is interested in being with you (in time) give this new person a shot. Let your ex stay just that, your ex. Don't even try to be his friend at this time because all he's going to do it talk negative about the person that you're hanging out with. The feelings you have for him will change in time, you may always care for him but you will find comfort and companionship with someone else just give it time.
2007-03-19 07:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely normal. In any normal relationship when a couple splits one or even both parties is sure to become jealous. Do not take this as being "obsessive". You're just not used to seeing him with someone else other than yourself. But time heals everything. Just give it some time. soon enough this feeling will go away*
2007-03-19 07:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by bikergirl* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he's tyring to get you jealous purposely. I mean, why would he keep calling you, then have you find out he's hooked up with someone. He's trying to make you jealous so you'll take him back.
And, it appears to be working. Donm't worry the feeling is only natural, especially if it was a long time relationship. Your best bet would be to completely seperate yourself from him, hang out with new guys and play the field. You're single now so work it girl.
You deserve a bigger and better fish
2007-03-19 07:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it's normal to feel jealous. After all, you still like him. And if he's been calling you, than he probably still likes you too.Sometimes it is normal to immediately start dating (seeing) someone else after a break up. People do this to try and get over their ex or because they were over their bf/gf before the break up. It is up to you to decide whether or not you still want to get back with your ex. Obviously, he wasted no time in hooking up with other people...Maybe you should consider that in deciding whether or not you want to date him agin or either forgive him since you guys are not together anymore. OR you can get over him and date other people. The choice is yours!
2007-03-19 07:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a normal reaction in my estimation, but it's also information you need to use to determine your best course of action. He's already moved on and perhaps you should too. Just because you reacted with jealously doesn't mean that the break up was a mistake. Keep your feelings to yourself and process what has occurred. Good Luck
2007-03-19 07:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's a great thing he's your ex. If he immediately, upon realizing he couldn't reach you, bedded another woman, it's screaming that he might have just called you for some sexual satisfaction. Maybe he knew if he sweet talked you that you would give him what he wanted.
Don't worry, everyone feels something for an ex that they were with an extended period of time; these feelings will subside over time. Eventually, you'll look back and ask yourself how you could have ever been attracted to someone like him. :)
2007-03-19 07:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE, but like all things it gets better with time you are young, vibrant and beautiful have fun... if he doesn't want to act right his loss, your gain girl it is spring get your party on and find something to take your mind off that fool go get a pedicure, manicure, spa day with the girls, shoot darts at his picture read a good book SOMETHING the hook-up was only to get you jealous it aint worth it two wrongs don't make a right okay!!! have fun once he sees you have moved on with your life and not obsessing over him he will come CRAWLING back.
2007-03-19 07:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by selina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It happened to me too. We broke up and he called me, I didn't want to answer his phone call because I stilll had feelings for him. Then he hooked up with this new girl. I was jealous. I didn't want ot see him with other girls but eventually I ngot over it. I knew that I could get him back. Girl it is normal. No your not obsessed. It's natural. Just let it run it's course out youll see.
2007-03-19 07:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by ga_latest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't appreciate what you have till it is gone. you seeing him with someone else does make you want them more so i think that it is normal. At least he got with her after you was broke up so he wasn't cheating. If he is calling you then he would probably want to get back with you so think about what you really want. sometimes it is good to take a break from your relationship to have time to see if it is where you really want to be. Good luck
2007-03-19 07:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋