My boyfriend has yellow teeth and bad breath. How should I tell him that it's a big problem? I'm a clean freak

Question

We have good communication. But that just seems so mean? I am big on hygiene. I have great teeth. I've tried to hint it off, but no luck....I don't even want to kiss him sometimes.

Answer 1

Just tell him. It's bad for you, and it's bad for him. If he has bad breath, he probably has cavities all ready. They cause a stronger smell then just not-brushing. Some people have chronic bad breath but it's actually not something that happens often so odds are that he needs to see a dentist. Neglected cavities equals root-canal, removing teeth and large dentist bills. So bottom line it's a win-win situation for him to brush his teeth. Courage!

Just tell him you are worried about his health and that it's a strong turn-off for you. You might want to tell him you're not in the mood one or two times before the big conversation. This way, when you do talk about it, he will realize it's implications on your relation and that it's very real.

PS: the yellow colour can be genetic or caused by coffee and/or smoking. Brushing might not whiten his teeth without professional bleaching.

Answer 2

LOL, sorry for laughing b/c yellow teeth and bad breath on a person you are in a relationship is not funny. But I had a similar situation happen to me with my son's father. I would just ask him if he wanted some gum. Then after he would say no all the time, I finally could not take it and just told him,but was really nice and respectful about it. If you guys have good communications, there should not be a problem.

Quick thought......if you guys leave together, change the tooth paste to a whitening brand and see if he notices. And start offering him gum or candy all the time and see if he asks about it, then you can just tell him without feeling like you started something and was hurting his feelings....... Good Luck!

Answer 3

Then don't!! This does seem like a problem and I'm curious as to how you were even attracted to him in the first place. Bad oral hygiene is probably an indicator as to his hygiene in general. You might as well be dating a guy with dentures, and if he keeps those bad habits up it may not be long before that's the case. If you like this guy though, tell him that you're concerned that he could have gum disease or some other issue. If he hasn't visited a dentist in awhile or have a dentist that he can schedule an appt. with that will tell you what you need to know. Don't rescue him....just end things and find someone that does practice good oral hygiene. Good Luck

Answer 4

You are doing an excellent job taking care of your teeth I must say. I'm not sure why you are having these problems but i recommend you go to a dentist soon as possible. It is true that bacteria lives in our mouths especially on our tongues. So u should start using a tongue scraper to remove any excess debris of your tongue. It is stated to brush your teeth at least 3 times a day for at least 3 min. To much brushing can actually remove some of the good stuff we need to protect our teeth. The smell could be some type of gum disease but we're not dentist so only they can say for sure. Act is a real good mouthwash to use. If you smoke that might be a reason as well.

Answer 5

Whether you live together or not, maybe he just stays over occasionally, come home with a bag of shopping and make sure he's there to help you unpack. Buy two new toothbrushes and as he's unpacking them, tell him they were on sale (even if they weren't) 2 for 1, so you bought one for each of you. Include a tube of toothpaste in a "new" flavour and tell him you can't wait to try it....that is, you BOTH brush your teeth and taste it.....on each other!! Could lead to some more fun...

Or keep a supply of mints and gum on hand when you're with him.

Or complain about the guy who was stuck beside you in the elevator/line/bus...gross yellow teeth and disgustingly bad breath. Tell him how you can't understand how people could neglect their teeth so badly....you feel bad for whoever has to kiss him...

Buy each of you a teeth bleaching kit and challenge him to a contest to see who's teeth will be whiter at the end of the kit.
Expensive but entirely worth it, no?

Good luck...my ex had the same problem...and needless to say it was quite a battle...I finally had to tell him that as much as I loved him, I didn't want to kiss him when his breath and teeth were so funky. I had to eat something nasty/garlicky and not brush right away but go in for a kiss right away, a few times before he finally got the hint...a taste of his own medicine as it were.

Answer 6

Let me be real honest here... I have over 49 insecurity issues and I am only 12 years old. I have suicidal thoughts and I have abusive parents and a brother who always treats me unfairly. I have yellow teeth and bad breath. No matter how much I brush my teeth or use strong mouthwash like listerine I still have bad breath. I read this question of yours and all these answers and I just wish I could make my mum proud and I have soooooo many imperfections that plague my body like: bad breath, (permanent) yellow teeth, chubbiness, ugly face, no hairline, eye bags. etc. and I m just saying that I m one of these guys you are talking about and I just wanna end my life if my girlfriend (which I will never have) said that to me. In seroously try soooooo hard to have good oral hygiene but I can t even afford a beaching kit because my parents think it s bad for you. I don t think I will ever have a girlfriend because of my imperfections. The only "good" thing about me is that I am kinda smart. I seriously have sooooo much negativity at this age and I literally cry myself to sleep EVERYDAY because no one loves me. And if you think I am saying this to get empathy or something, you re wrong I just can t take life anymore and I just wanna kill myself one day............

Answer 7

Tell him all about this guy from work "Make up a name" and tell him how he talks up close to everyone and his breath stinks bad..he really needs to floss cuz u can see all the plaque build up and his teeth are all stained yellow..tell him how gross and what a turn off it is. Use your judgment on how harsh you should be as you tell him about the fake man . Maybe this will make him think in the back of his mind that he better start taking his PH level more serious before someone like me captures ya with my pearly whites!! Good luck

Answer 8

hey tell him straight if you have good communication just say look sweetie i really care about you and your dental hygiene is just not healthy, you need to take better care of your teeth and gums you only get one permanent set. Or if that still is too bold for you buy him a sonicare or electric toothbrush , or plaque remover get yourself one too then say hey let's see if these things really work. or try switching the mouthwash with that stuff they give kids to show them how much plaque is on their teeth then when it turns his teeth colors be like OMG what is that on your teeth you need to brush them !!!! remember the male ego is fragile stroke it gently

Answer 9

Honesty hurts, and if you would stay with him even if he had yellow teeth forever, then you reserve the right to say something. If it would help the relationship, then it's something worth saying. BUT if you want him to do this, and are willing to put your relationship on the line for something so shallow- do yourselves a favor and let him go, because you obviously aren't that serious. He might do it if he's in love with you, and you are in love with him. But don't be surprised if he's hurt and offended. People don't like hearing that something about them is offensive.

Answer 10

Dude yellow teeth are GROSS! How can you stand to kiss that dirty mouth. Tell him to go take a trip to the dentist. Hopefully they can help him with his problem. Buy him a good tooth brush, dental floss and some gum and some STRONG mouth wash.