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A guy I have been interested in and I have been having problems. He called me on Friday to initiate a conversation because he wanted to work out things between us. We both took blame for the things we had done wrong. Overall it was good except for one thing. He told me that whenever he started feeling like he wanted to be serious about me, he had to pull away. That he felt like he could not give me what I deserved in that type of relationship right now. He has a career that is really demanding. He would have time for me but just doesn't feel that it would be enough. So could he have been seriously been telling me the truth or just a line?

2007-03-19 07:05:56 · 12 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It doesn't sound like he's ready for a permanent or committed relationship. If that's what you really want, then wish him luck and move on.

2007-03-19 07:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 0 0

Hard to say with the little facts you gave. Anyway, that demanding career of his, does it require frequent travels? Or does it mean that he'd be so busy on weekdays and would just have weekends for you? Are you cool with that arrangement? Search your heart --- how much or how little time is good enough for you? With the tech'l conveniences now (e-mail, text, etc.), no one is really that far away - there's just no excuse not to keep in touch. So finding time for someone is easy as A-B-C...unless what you want is time spent together in person (i.e, regular dates, daily visits, etc.).

Have that talk again. Tell him you're willing to compromise and would really want to see if this relationship would work (you do, don't you?). But if he's still giving excuses, dump him!

Good luck!

2007-03-19 14:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Inday 7 · 0 0

Well how long have two been dating? Sometimes, when we get too serious in a relationship things like this happen. Talk to him, without putting pressure on him and then again, you may rethink about your relationship.
The demands of a new or old job sometimes, put a strain but doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Comunicate in an adult way so both of you, will know where you are standing. Good luck!

2007-03-19 14:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'd be confused in this type of situation also. I guess if he truly wanted to be with you then he'd give you whatever time he had to offer just so he could still have you in his life. I'd say that your best bet is to tell him how you feel about him and tell him you're willing to take whatever he has to offer at this point in order not to lose him. If you hear another excuse, then I guess the whole thing was a line. And if that were the case, I guess you just ought to be greatful that he was a nice guy and tried to let you down easily.

2007-03-19 14:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 0 0

He was telling the truth. If you listen to him you will be happier in the long run. Keep communication open, but date other people for awhile. That way if he can offer you more later the option is there. If you have fallen in love with someone else by then it was never meant to be

2007-03-19 14:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 1 0

He is serious, but he's trying to keep the door open in case he finds something else he likes better. I was famous for that type of a line.

2007-03-19 14:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by WyoWonder 3 · 0 0

Take the man at his word and proceed with caution try not to get emotional attached and keep the relationship friendly if it get to much for you let him know. but if opportunity comes alone and someone Else catches your eye let him know and if it's real feeling he have he will step up and do what it take to keep you.

2007-03-19 14:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like a line to me. Get out while you still have some of your feelings sweetie.

2007-03-19 14:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He's letting you down easy, it's natural we always make it out to be your too good for me or I'm the problem. Not to be a dick but he's just not interested, if he was he would be all over it. Period.

2007-03-19 14:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hes married.

2007-03-19 14:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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