whenever i call my bf late night he says he's sleeping and not in a mood to talk to me....why is it so?? i feel so hurt! he never used to be like that a even a month ago.....
we have been dating for over a year now...is he bored with me??
2007-03-19 07:03:25 · 16 answers · asked by >>>♥<<< 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him some space, guys need more space than girls think, and guys are different than girls when it comes to what we need. If he needs space, let him have it. As long as he's not cheating. If he's losing interest, you can't stop it from happening, the relationship may have just run it's course. Give him a few days, if he doesn't open up and tell you what's bothering him, or if he doesn't call or anything after a few days, then YOU should end it. Throw him off. If he doesn't care, than it's just over and you should accept it. But that may make him want you more. Just don't crowd him, that won't do ANY good. Most guys won't leave their girlfriends on their own, even if they're losing interest. (imo) . I hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-19 07:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by KidBao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is avoiding you because he is answering the phone. If you called and got the answering machine all the time THEN he would be avoiding you.
I don't know if he is bored of you - only he can answer that.
What I would ask is when is a good time for the both of you to chat on the phone or hook up?
Or call him earlier in the night so it's not so late night. If he is still saying he is sleeping (kinda hard if he says he's sleeping at 7pm everynight) than you know that something is going on.
2007-03-19 14:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be getting bored, sometimes guys distance themselves when they want to break up. He could be telling the truth too, he may just really be tired. To find out for sure ask yourself this, how does he treat you during the day when you spend time together? Is he distant at other times or only atr night, if its only at night he probably just values his sleep, and after a year some of that new relationship excitement has fizzled, dont worry if this is the case, it happens to all couples with time.
Good luck to you! =)
2007-03-19 14:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your getting on his nerves and you should quit calling probably about nothing. Doing things together is one thing but dont call all the time. Males don't really talk that much. We do all the talking. All the talk he did before was just because it was a new relationship and now he's tired. Find something else to do to occupy your time. He'll come around when he notices that you have not called. And if he doesn't then it was not meant to be anyway.
2007-03-19 14:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. He may also be intentionally trying to offend you so you'll be the one to walk away (and he can play the role of the 'nice guy'). I suggest you try letting time pass to determine his level of interest...if he never or seldom calls just to talk, if he doesn't confirm weekend plans, or seem interested in getting together you'll be able to figure things out for yourself. Guys are fickle and seldom straightforward. Make sure he's making an effort to keep the relationship together or else it's not worth your efforts either. It takes two willing participants to make a relationship work. So back off some and see what develops. Good Luck
2007-03-19 14:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think mostly hes just not a late night person. Maybe call earlier in the day and if you think he's bored with you...start doing more fun stuff...plan an entire day with stuff both of you like to do. That's not like shopping at the mall or stuff...try going to a football game or stuff like that.
2007-03-19 14:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have something new in his life that might make him more tired? Like a new job or different hours. If not then he probably has a new girl who is there late at night and you should get rid of him. Find someone who needs to talk to you as much as you need to talk to them.
2007-03-19 14:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when did it started? you've gotta trace back, maybe there was something that was making him a lil off...but if you havent done anything special try surprising him with something...dun lose that spark that you both shared once... Or maybe he is getting too much of you, just relax have a break and continue where you stopped then after... If you trust him you shant worry that he might be having an affair...
good like in mending your relationship!
2007-03-19 14:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, just maybe, he actually IS sleeping. If he gives the same response when you call him during normal hours, then I would worry. Until then, don't make an issue out of nothing, it'll only drive him away. :)
2007-03-19 14:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs some space. Don't be so judgemental. Try to talk to him, during the day. Maybe he is having some problems. Give him time and maybe, you could use it too to reevaluate your relationship with him. In any case, good luck!
2007-03-19 14:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋