Initially when I left town six months ago he called and appologized but still lives with the girlfriend, for four months now he has stopped calling, should I call or return to him?, am a wedded christian
2007-03-19 06:56:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Leave him - they both deserve each other. Move on to something better.
2007-03-19 06:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know divorce isn't looked upon as "the right thing to do" from a Christian's point of view, but there are some instances when you have no choice. This sounds like you. God doesn't want you to be in a relationship where you suffer and are unloved. This man has left you and started a new relationship. You deserve better. Start living your life for you-you will find the man that God intends you to be with. Good Luck sweetie :)
2007-03-19 07:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by happyfacemommy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No matter what your religion, if your husband moves in with his pregnant girlfriend, you need to divorce him and stay away for good. He broke his marriage vows, and I'm assuming that you didn't, so there's no sin in divorcing him and moving on to find someone with your values. I think it would be worse to stay with someone that has shown their true colors - you have been given a chance to live a better life with someone that cares about you (even if that person ends up being just you). Go on with your life, pursue all of those things that you've always wanted to do but never did, and let him live in his fantasy life. Be strong!
2007-03-19 07:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer immediately, and have him pay for it. Live your life and dont be sad. God has another plan for you, let him be your closer partner for a while, He will cuddly you until he brings you a new life partner. Many have been through what you have. Dont worry you will come out of this. Read this book. In The Meantime. it is a book about getting yourself together so when God brings the right person to you, you are ready to participate in the mutual love and be successful. Good luck Michele
2007-03-19 07:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by busty_bunny_in_lingerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Christian doesn't mean be a doormat and let people walk all over you. Yes, marriage is supposed to be for life, but he's walked out on you and has effectively ask (by his actions) for a divorce. He's wrong, not you. If he doesn't want you anymore you can't stay married to him out of some twisted loyalty to the church. 1 Corinthians 7 has all the scripture on what God expects from us in marriage. It does not say you can not divorce. If your husband walked out on you, it's as if he's dead. Go read it for yourself. Follow God's rules, not the churches because usually they are not the same thing.
2007-03-19 07:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedded christian...? And that means what? I know what it means, but does that mean that you have to remain in an unhappy situation b/c of it? Would your god want you to be unhappy? If I were you, I would leave him alone, file for divorce and hit him up for child support (if children are involved). And while I would be doing all that...have a big smile on your face. Why chase a man that OBVIOUSLY does not want to be with you regardless of you being a wedded christian? Hun, MOVE ON!!!!!!! Peace......
2007-03-19 07:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian or not, your husband has broken your marriage vows.
I would suggest that you give it a shot if he were sorry & wanted to try again with you to have a marriage. But he does not. He has chosen this "girlfriend" over you, his wife. Does that say anything to you?
Call a lawyer; and possibly a counselor to help you get through these trying times.
2007-03-19 07:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on..... This is a loose woman(the Girlfriend) and loose women have a loose history. Don't get caught up and contract any godforsaken disease. AIDS is out there!!!!
He made his bed,now let him lie in it. God says marriage is honorable, God says- Forsake all others, and there is nothing honorable going on there. It might not even be his baby, cuz that's how loose women act. Call your husband and tell him he is a Silly Rabbit!!! You need a Christian Man.....
2007-03-19 07:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by hatlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, he's taken himself out of the picture. Get counseling for yourself. If you feel so inclined, invite him to join you and patch up your marriage (ask your counselor how to proceed).
Unfortunately, despite popular opinion, there is no provision for a Wedded Christian to divorce and remarry. You may need to accept a civil divorce to protect your finances, etc., but the so-called "immorality provision" for divorce is understood by knowledgeable scholars to refer to such things as incest (which was common among gentiles at the time), not mere infidelity.
If your husband is not Christian, Paul says you should not prevent him leaving, but the only ones he says should seek remarriage are widows.
2007-03-19 07:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by John K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He made his choice, there's nothing you can do but move on. Unfortunately, hi wedding vows didn't mean as much to his as they do to you. You have to get over this and move on with your life. He has stopped calling which means he no longer cares for you, he wants to be with his younger girlfriend. That may sound harsh but you have to move on with your life. He does not deserve you!
2007-03-19 07:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you're a Christian. Vows are very important to you. But enough is enough.
However, he has BROKEN his vow to you. I'm sure your pastor would understand that you would not want to be with this man any more.
Cut him loose, count your blessings that he's GONE, and make yourself a new and better life. He has obviously made himself a new life with his mistress and their child. You haven't heard from him in months. I believe that states his intention to say gone from you. He has clearly made his choice.
It's time to "shake the sand from your sandals and walk away". I believe that is a quote from the Bible. Not sure who said it, but I believe it may have been Jesus himself.
Go forth and find someone who believes his vows. You deserve that much.
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 07:07:11 · answer #11 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋