My best friend is getting married and I'm hosing the bridal shower. Her and her fiance have been living together for 8 years and have everything they could need for the house. She suggested gift certificates only and a honeymoon themed wishing well. Does anyone have any tactful wording for the invitation to suggest gift certificates only?
2007-03-19 06:54:55 · 15 answers · asked by hdpeters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Despite what the majority of the answers say, having a Themed Shower is perfectly acceptable. This is becoming a growing trend among brides. As times change so do traditions. There are many web sites out there have advice, tips and invitation wording for these type of showers. Have fun and definitely go for it. It sounds wonderful to me.
"A No Gift Shower"
BRIDE
and
GROOM
are soon to be wed
You are invited to a
Wedding Shower for the couple
on DAY, YEAR
at TIME
Mr. and Mrs. HOST'S home
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE
Please R.s.v.p. by DATE
PHONE No
When guests RSVP explain the idea about the gift certificates and the honeymoon. It may be easier to get the point across that way then in writing.
2007-03-19 11:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Riss 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Gift Certificate Wording
2016-09-29 10:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Site Might Help You.
RE:
Hosting a gift certificate only bridal shower, need wording help for invitation.?
My best friend is getting married and I'm hosing the bridal shower. Her and her fiance have been living together for 8 years and have everything they could need for the house. She suggested gift certificates only and a honeymoon themed wishing well. Does anyone have any tactful wording for the...
2015-08-18 13:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Garnette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride-to-be with gifts to help her and her new husband set up their household together.
If they have been living together for 8 years and "have everything they need for the house," to have a shower and ask for more is just plain tacky and greedy. And to make matters worse, she wants a shower where she's telling people what to buy her?! I am sorry. That is RUDE.
If I were invited to that, I would not only not come, I would throw all etiquette out the window and not send a gift, either.
2007-03-19 08:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no tactful wording for this, and it should not be done. It was horrible of her to have suggested it! It's just not acceptable. If she wants NO gifts, then have no shower. The total purpose of having a bridal shower is for people to help out by giving little gifts that will help the couple get set up in their home. So have no shower, or have a shower, and let it be a normal one where people give gifts of their choice.
Gee, do we have to guess what she's going to try to write for the wedding invitation????
2007-03-19 11:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every answer here is pretty much ON target. The point of the shower is for the bride to receive household items to start her married life. If they are together 8 years and already "have everything" it does not entitle the bride to "choose something else." Next thing you know, people will say "In lieu of gifts, please contribute to our mortgage/car payment." If she truly has everything she needs it is extremely gift grabby and presumptuous to be having a shower at all. As someone else suggested, why not just have an informal party to celebrate their upcoming marriage? Anyway, the bottom line is, you shouldn't be mentioning gifts at all in an invitation. You won't find any cute poems or appropriate wording in any etiquette book, because it isn't a proper thing to do. I can almost feel the weird vibe that will be coming from the guests at the shower....wow..let's watch the bride open..oh..another gift card.
2007-03-19 09:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's generally considered tacky to mention gifts at all on an invite to anything, so you'll have to let guests know by word of mouth. Request that they call or email you to RSVP, and when you talk with them or email them back to confirm, then you can mention, "Oh, by the way, the couple isn't registered anywhere, but if you'd like to send them something, they are hoping for gift certificates or contributions to the honeymoon."
There are some wedding websites that offer secure online transactions, if people want to donate cash to the honeymoon. Or try Paypal. If you set up a website, include some general information about the shower, and then put the link to the website on the invite (so it doesn't seem like gifts are a condition of their invitation).
2007-03-19 07:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wedding Shower Wording
2016-12-12 04:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to get offended when you choose their gifts for them, so I can understand why wording would be important in this situation. Maybe you could say something like, "Please consider choosing a gift certificate while picking out your gift." For the most part, you've put yourself in a very awkward situation. The reason it's so hard to come up with a tactful way to say it is because it's sort of an untactful thing to do. Where did you come up with the idea? Maybe you heard about someone else doing it? Maybe you could ask them for a copy of their invitations.
2007-03-19 07:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by JaniesTiredShoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shower for a bride is to shower the bride with gifts for her new life. If they've been living together for eight years, a shower really isn't the way to go. Why not have a party, like a Jack and Jill, inviting everybody to celebrate the union, not shower them with gifts. Simply write that it's a party, not a shower, but if they desire to extend their generosity to the future bride and groom, gift certificates at XYZ Store(s) or donations to XYZ Travel Agency for their honeymoon are appreciated.
2007-03-19 07:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋