how do you deal with cancer?

Question

i was just diagnosed 4 months ago and im still having a really hard time dealing

im only 15 years old

im going to be 16 in 2 days...ive got ewings sarcoma cancer its in my neck they say its really rare because its mostly found in bone

and no im not playing no damn game coblond or w/e

whats trolling and what are u going to reprt me for?
i simply said i was 16 because i will be in 2 days

Answer 1

You decide to yourself right here and now that you are 15 years old and YOU ARE GOING TO LAUGH AND HAVE FUN AS BEST YOU CAN EVERYDAY EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL WELL. AND KNOW TO YOURSELF THAT EVEN THOUGH YOU "RESPECT AND FEAR", THE CANCER AND WHAT IT MIGHT DO, THE CANCER CAN TAKE A ^^&$@#$% AND KISS YOUR #%^&%$ AND YOU WILL SET YOUR MIND TO MOBILIZING EVERY SOLDIER IN YOUR BODY TO SEEK AND DESTROY ALL CANCER CELLS. CAN YOU REALLY DO THAT? WHO CARES!! WE ALREADY DECIDED THAT CANCER CAN %$@# OFF, DIDN'T WE. HEY DUDE, DO NOT DRIVE YOURSELF "NUTS" OBSESSING ABOUT THIS FIGHT, DON'T EVEN CONCENTRATE ON IT. JUST KNOW THAT IN "'THE BACK OF YOUR MIND" THE ENEMY IS MET, LOOKED SQUARE IN THE EYE, AND TOLD " I DON'T THINK SO" BEST OF LUCK MY FRIEND...YOU E-MAIL ME AT ANY TIME.

Answer 2

Ewing's Sarcoma is very rare, and very serious.
Here's a blog you can check out:
http://rebekahspage.blogspot.com/
It's about a little girl that had Ewing's. She is 4 now. She had it when whe was 3. You'd have to go back to the old blog entries to see how it was when she was in treatment. No one expected her to live. I'm hoping you may be able to draw some inspiration from her story. Also, you can email her family if you have questions or comments.
Best wishes

Answer 3

I've had cancer ... twice it was 'primary' cancer and three times it was 'metastatic' cancer ... and I am STILL ALIVE well over twenty years down the line ... and I am 'the oldest living survivor' of what is now the 'surgical excision' that is 'most common' for the type of cancer I had. It was 98% fatal when I first had it, and it is now 'only 14% fatal.

You need to 'get really, really mad' at the CANCER ... and you need to 'fight it' with everything you have got. LITERALLY! Okay, you can't pick up a gun and 'shoot it' or 'beat it to death with a stick' ... but what you CAN DO is 'visualize' the 'cancer cells' within you as being 'weak and very sickly' and the 'immune cells' in your body that 'fight the cancer' as being HUGE and EXTREMELY STRONG and they can 'beat the cancer to death' or 'shoot it dead' or do ANYTHING that 'feels right' to you.
Second, 'pamper yourself' ... take 'long hot baths' with bubbles and 'good smells' like lavender, which 'relaxes you' and can even help you sleep ... but also you should 'volunteer' at something 'fun' ... I was a docent at the county art museum two days a week, and 'counted bones' in a 'paleontological dig' two days a week ... you are 'young' and must go to school or at least do schoolwork, but you should have 'enough' free time to 'volunteer' to do something 'good' and 'fun' ... even by 'bagging food' at a foodbank, and giving it to the 'poor and homeless' where you live is a 'good thing' that can be lots of fun.
Then you need to 'learn how to listen to your body' and eat what it tells you it WANTS ... because all of the 'good nutrition rules' of a normal healthy life go out the window when you have cancer. By 'listening to your body' and feeding it 'what it really wants' (sometimes it will be 'really healthy food' like fruits and fruit juices, and other times it will be something like 'chocolate' (eat only the 'dark chocolate' that is at least 60% cacao, please), or you may 'crave oysters' for days on end. It doesn't matter ... feed your cravings and you will be getting 'enough of what your body needs' to fight the cancer well, no matter how 'crazy' that may seem to people who don't have cancer.
OF COURSE I want you to 'see your doctor' regularly as 'prescribed' and take ALL of the 'medication' (including chemotherapy if that is called for, and also 'radiation') ... and if you 'can't eat' after your 'chemo' then smoke some POT (get a 'prescription' from your doctor for this if it is 'legal' in your state) ... the pot will 'give you the munchies' and you'll be able to eat more and 'better'.
In 'other words' you are to 'take GOOD CARE of yourself' in a way that will 'help you fight the cancer' and also give you a 'GOOD LIFE' while you are 'ill' ... and if you can remember that CANCER is just a 'disease' and that you WILL GET BETTER (another part of that first 'visualization' I told you about) then you WILL GET BETTER.
I'll pray for you, my dear ... and you may also 'pray for yourself' and even get on some 'prayer lists' and ask at your church (or any 'local' churches) to put you onto their 'prayer list' on Sundays ...
GET BETTER, but remember that 'cancer' takes TIME to be cured, and you can 'get it again' if you let up on the 'routine' I've given you ... but YOU CAN BEAT IT. I KNOW YOU CAN, because I did ...

Answer 4

COBLONDE IS RIGHT, THIS ASKER IS A TROLL WHO IS EXPLOITING PEOPLE'S SYMPATHIES. REPORT THIS ASKER FOR TROLLING!

(and because I *do* care about the thousands upon thousands of people who get cancer every year, I'll let the other advice stand)

There's more to dealing with cancer than just taking chemotherapy and undergoing surgery. There's a human element, too.

Many cancer patients (including you) feel a mix of emotions. Often, there's fear -- fear about your mortality, the effects your illness will have on other people, etc. Often there's anger, as in "What kind of cruel universe would punish me this way?" Then there's a lot of loneliness. Sometimes you feel like people don't understand how you're feeling. Sometimes, you feel like people are avoiding you.

In your case, since you are 15, the hospitals where you are undergoing treatment should be able to provide you with a counselor or social worker to talk through your feelings and concerns. Right now, you need support. There are online organizations that can help. Or again, ask your hospital or medical provider.

Some people find relief and strength through faith. Some go to church more often, talk to their pastors, pray, etc. Some seek new spiritual paths. There's a monk at my (Buddhist)temple who devoted what he thought were his days to intense meditation. He was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. Fortunately, he recovered, and his spiritual experience was so profound that he chose to stay in the monastery. I know another fellow whose faith in God and Christ kept him strong during years of chemo (leukemia). He survived as well and went on to seminary and became an evangelical preacher.

One more thing to think about, though, is how other people are going to treat you. I know it's rough for you right now, and you must be starving for some emotional support from friends and family. Unfortunately, people are going to feel AWKWARD, and they may draw away from you. They don't mean to draw away, but they don't know how to approach you. They need cues from YOU to know how they should act around you because I'd bet they're taking your diagnosis hard, too.

Talk to your friends and family, write them letters. Tell them DIRECTLY that you're gonna need their help and support. Tell them you want to be able to confide in them. Tell then you want them to visit you when you're ill.

Get well soon, I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Of course you're having a hard time dealing with it. You shouldn't have to deal with it at all. My only suggestion is to take it one day at a time. Get up each morning and deal with what that day brings. Don't dwell on what might happen tomorrow because no one knows what tomorrow may bring. My other advice is to eat well and be sure to take vitamins and drink plenty of water.

There are support groups out there for all sorts of things. Speak to your oncologist about groups that he/she might know of. You might also want to see a therapist who can help you sort out your feelings and deal with them.

I hope that you will totally and completely heal.

Answer 6

Check out the American Cancer Society website. They have a 24 hour toll-free phone number for cancer patients and family. It really helped me.

Answer 7

So sorry to hear what type of cancer? There are support groups around.

Answer 8

I'm really confused so please explain? YOu posted a different question about 2 hrs. ago stating that you were 16? are you playing a game?