my 3 year old nephew is so bad (hits,yells,grabs knifes ......what is the best punishment my sister could give give other than taking him to a psycologist ???
what punishment/activity would make him be more calmed ?
2007-03-19 06:42:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he needs time outs and he needs to be told no. I have a godson that is 3 years old. He did the same thing but now since he's been punished with timeouts, toys being taken away, he is behaving alot better. Knives should be far out of the reach of a 3 yr old that's for sure. Sounds like your sister needs to child proof her house as well.
2007-03-19 06:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by jcgrier24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is OK in cases that the child is about to do harm to himself.
If he is grabbing knives, they need to be put into a place that he cannot reach. You wouldn't leave a gun on the counter top, would you?
If he is being disrespectful at this age, it is the parents problem, and not the child. He is simply reacting to his environment.
Try spending more time reading and playing with him. Spend more time teaching him how you do, and do not act. Instate time out as punishment. And if that doesn't work you take away the toys, the games, the computer, and the TV/DVD. If you stand firm, he will back down and you will be in control.
Remember, he is just a child. It's the parents duty to teach him how to behave in society and life.
2007-03-19 14:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by isisrocca82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a book that is called "How To Behave So Your Children Do To" There is also another one called "Kids Are Worth It" by Barbara Colorosso. I have read these books several times. You learn something new each time. I do not know if your sister is a young mother or not, but I was 17 when I had my daughter and I know it is not easy, especially if you have very little help. Anyways young or not these books have a lot to offer. Children are not born with bad behavior, they are taught it. I noticed someone said give him meds. He is three years old. Don't screw him up. It is called consistency, patience and setting a good example. Keep in mind Dr.s are really quick to prescribe pills these days. Try reading and learning new tricks. Reading others opinions and ways worked for me. My daughter is now 8 and is very well behaved. It took changes in myself to make that happen. Just tell your sister to remember, she is not here to be his friend, she is here to teach him the way the world works. Once that job is done (about another 15 - 20 years) you will be best friends. Violence (spankings etc.) teaches a child to hit when they are angry. I am not saying do not spank your child, but always give them a chance first and never spank when you are angry. Always calm down first. I found that when I calmly warn my daughter I get the best response. I will say something along the lines of "if you continue to do that, I will spank you and send you to your room" that way she knows it is coming before it happens and I am not spanking her because I am angry, I am spanking her because she failed to abide by what was asked of her. There is no easy way with children. They are all so different. I know a young boy that is on pills. In my opinion it does him no good. He wakes up in the morning and is forced to take a pill that is going to make him tired. Wouldn't you be cranky too. Time and patience. It works with every child. I hope your sister picks up these books. It is very worth the time because remember "Kids Are Worth It".
2007-03-19 14:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by molsoncanadiangirl101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three year olds are notoriously bad and prone to tantrums and outbursts. I have found the best way to deal with an outburst or a tantrum is to ignore it. As for the knife grabbing, no knives of any sort should be used or stored within reach of a three year old. As for punishments or activities, encourage your nephew to draw or color on paper or play with toys. He should also be spoken to calmly and encouraged to behave nicely and complimented when he does.
2007-03-19 13:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's old enough to grab a knife and cause harm, I would say take EVERYTHING out of his room but the bed and his clothes and make him stay there until he understands that its not tolerated by any means. Of course giving him the necessities he needs. It may take some time but stick to your guns and soon you should see some kind of result. Don't forget to talk to your pediatrician and get him on some kind of meds!! GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-19 13:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a Love and Logic parenting class has helped me out huge with our 3 1/2 year old son. Of course, getting my husband to try more of the techniques will need another lesson it itself :-)
If they can't attend a class, there are books and videos available.
2007-03-19 13:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by J G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an underlying reason why the tempertantrums are so horrible, they are worse than normal terrible3s, so the best thing she could do would be to bring him to a syche. Here are some information on Terrible 3 Tantrums for the mean time...
preschoolerstoday.com/r
esources/articles/
meltdown.htm
https://www.healthatoz.com/
healthatoz/Atoz/common/
standard/transform.jsp?re...
www.parenting.com/parenting/
child/article/
0,19840,670935,00
.html
This one is the best:
www.medhelp.org/Health
Topics/Tantrums.html
www.Good-Child-
Guide.com
www.better-behavior.com
2007-03-19 13:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't punish.
and DO NOT give him a psychologist (he is WAY too long)
ok if you want to teach him write, be serious when you say things.
when he hits grabs or yells, grab his hands and tell him no.
don't let go until he agrees. if he does it again hold on again.
it will teach him right from wrong. he is still very young and can learn things.
but you must let the kid experience life. we were once a brat too. lol
2007-03-19 13:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am no expert but has she tried "time out"? Have him sit in a corner, facing the corner, for a period of time. Not a long time, remembering children's time flies slower than adults. Also, reward him for good behavior when you can find this and he'll be encouraged to do something good. Be persistent and dont give in or he'll manipulate her. Good luck.
2007-03-19 13:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he doing it?
Try distraction and time outs- there is very rarely a need for psychologists in children this young.
Get him to do something his likes, like finger painting/drawing etc, but let him know that this behaviour is not ok!
EDIT:Check his diet for additives that might make him hyper!
2007-03-19 13:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋