Hey there--I've just started dating my guy a month ago--but I'm afraid he's losing interest because I'm so inexperienced w/ dating--- I've only dated like twice before him, and only for like 2 weeks before my relatonships failed heh....kinda for the same reasons---I thought it was just cuz I was young then, but I haven't changed much. My boyfriend even made a comment the other day when I was giving him a hug; he said "heh, I like how you're so----" then he moved his hands like he was pushing something away, saying how distanced I seem. I didn't feel bad at all, in fact he's totally right
----one reason is that I don't know how to relax my body, I'm always stiff and don't know where to put my arms or my feet.
---also, for some reason, I feel weird being affectionate in public
---also I suck at kissing! but I'll ask that another time
Anyway, I don't understand why I'm so bad, I thought affection and caring came naturally? *uggggggggggggggggh*
2007-03-19 06:20:33 · 10 answers · asked by Moldcookie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope it doesn't it has to be learned so one of your problems is that you are stiff that's easy to fix
so when he hugs you rap your arms around his next and pull his body into yours (its not bad just a hug bear hug)
and when you are around him every once in a while touch his arm and tickle it or hold his hand
and when you see him give him a big big smile like you are happy to see him and be pleasant and kind to him
also i can help with kissing to so here are something you should do when you kiss
*first off start small like a peck on the cheek to make yourself comfy with him
* give him small pecks on the lips to make yourself feel relaxed
*then do what is called the movie kiss where you kiss his lower lip and he kisses your upper lip watch some kissing seens in movies you get it and it fun to do this kiss cus then that leads into the next thing
* when you are kissing his lower lip nibble on it a little or suck on it a tiny not hard just a little
that will get him to think you are a good kisser and then once you want to learn more just email me and id be glad to help ya chick good luck
2007-03-19 06:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been the same for most of us at one point, so don't worry, you're not alone! If this guy genuinely likes you then he should understand this and be happy to get to know you first. Perhaps you would be more comfortable building a friendship before diving head first into the deep end. Becoming friends doesn't mean you have to stop dating entirely either, it's still nice to meet up occasionaly, or be affectionate. Keep him interested with flirting and keep the ball in your court, eventually he'll be head over heels for you ;) If you do always feel uncomfortable around him then maybe he is putting too much pressure on you, in which case don't be afraid to show him the door!
As for being affectionate in public- if you're having trouble being affectionate at all to this guy then attempting it in public isn't going to help because you have the additional pressure of other people being around.
Hope this helps :)
2007-03-19 13:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural. I'm guessing he's not such a good guy for you. When you a right person, you'll automatically notice the comfort. You can't make yourself relax around someone. It just comes to you. Think about trying again. Don't try and make this work. Your body's tense for a reason.
2007-03-19 13:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Saoirse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need instruction on how to kiss properly. He will be happy to give you a few lessons and at the same time practice relaxing.
It will huge dividends in the future.
PS: I married my wife because she is such a great kisser.
2007-03-19 13:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by celtic_hd_heritage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. i couldnt figure out how to relax. i talked to one of my friends and my guy and he said as long as i was comfortable he would be too. if i wasnt just tell him and we would work throguh it. you need to both be comfortable before you can move on. after a little more time you get used to it and you learn to relax.
2007-03-19 13:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by SMasewicz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can teach you how to be a good girlfriend. It just comes with time and experience. Everything will just fall naturally.
2007-03-19 13:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just dont like the fella. dont settle for the one you can live with, settle for the ones your can not live with out! dont get yourself in a relationship unless you really like a guy, and whn you find that one person, trust me, your body will do the rest! relax :) it does come naturally!
2007-03-19 13:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by kc321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll one you should not be dating until yiou think God has the right guy for you...... if you go out wit someone then you are giving your hearts to every guy you dated.. and you will feel so stupid for giving your heart to all those guys and you wont have anything to give to your Husband...... well trust me i know.......and i have not dated anyone yet and dont plan to till God sends me someone
2007-03-19 13:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by thenatigirl2009 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy that your more into and everything will come naturaly to you. Good Luck
2007-03-19 13:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is genuinally interested he will make the effort and if he is interested.
2007-03-19 13:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋