2007-03-19 06:16:55 · 8 answers · asked by RoxStar 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
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2007-03-19 12:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by fredonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will go through a predeployment process that will include giving power of attorney to you or possibly his mom since you guys are not married. That will grant the person he appoints the power to handle his affairs while he is away. He can have his cell phone and payments for credit cards and loans put on hold until he returns. He will need to provide a copy of his orders to the companys though. You can order free boxes and lables from the post office to more easily send him packages. I guess the number one thing for you, is to be prepared to be by yourself and to keep your mind occupied. I don't know if you guys are living together, but if you are, you need to know where everything is in the house that you don't currently take care of and you need to make sure you know about the bills of the house. Some husbands take care of all of that, and that's great, but when they are not there to do it, you need to be able to seamlessly take over. Depending on your finaces unit, you may or may not be able to be on the Key Volumteers contact list (because you guys are not married). If you are not then you should be sure to be in contact with a wife from the same unit, that way you will be in the loop. I hope some of this helps, and good luck.
2007-03-19 13:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by groovychica1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the wife of a retired Marine and all I can say is just stay busy. Before computers, I used to write to my husband every day. If you work, continue working. If not, get a job so you won't just sit at home wondering what he's doing. Send lots of care packages with stuff that he loves. I always knew what I was getting into by marrrying someone in the military, so I never had a problem when my husband left. The temptation will be there to flirt, but resist it. Remember that your fiance is serving his country for our freedom and always support him in serving.
2007-03-19 13:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to prepare when you dont know what to expect. I just let myself feel whatever it is I feel. Sometimes I have it all together, sometimes I cry. It is hard so dont try to talk yourself into thinking it is a piece of cake.
Be sure you have your finances in order. Be sure to have his address if possible so you can start sending those packages! Be sure you have support lined up for the day he leaves....honey, you will need it. Some people will tell you to stay busy. I suppose I do stay busy, but that is getting those care packages together and mailing them out. That is my full time job! Making sure my phone is charged and computers are working....so I never ever miss a log in or a phone call. And through 2 deployments, I have NEVER MISSED A CALL OR A LOG IN!!! Commo is as important for our sanity as it is theirs.
Once he gets there, is able to establish his most reliable means of communication, and yall figure out his schedule and when he will be emailing, IMming, or calling, you will feel much better. There will always be slow net, commo blackouts, and full schedules, but just be patient, remember no news is good news, and be his support!
Good luck to you and your fiancee!! Take care!
2007-03-19 13:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have all the paperwork in place so you can pay the bills. (joint account where his pay gets deposited and a limited power of attorney) make sure that his page 2 is up to date. (sorry you can't be added to it until you are married) make sure that you have the address of the ship (so you can send him much appreciated packages from home) and he has your email account so you can "talk" every day. (Its easier for him to write to you first to give you the address). You really should also have wills drawn up just in case. and don't worry too much, you both did fine before you met each other, and as long as you stay in contact you will be fine when he gets back.
2007-03-19 13:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-19 13:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave. Tell him everything will be alright.
They get a little funny right before they go. (sorry ya'll but true) Sort of all business like, beginning to distance themselves mentally. They all do it.
Fear not.
Get your affairs in order so you won't have money troubles later.
Pray for him. We will too.
2007-03-19 13:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by FOA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat it as any other maneuver.
2007-03-19 13:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋