forgive and forget?

Question

have you forgiven your b/f or husband for cheating?
have you not forgiven and moved on?
anyone know of happy endings when someone has cheated?

what if it was just a kiss

Answer 1

I have forgiven my GF, but I will never forget it.

Answer 2

Sometimes people are able to work out the differences and forgive their significant other for cheating. In these instances I am sure that it is hard to get past the thought of your partner being intimate with another man/woman, but somehow ( although I am not sure how) they do. In my own opinion, once you accept the cheating the first time, there is bound to be a second time. I am not the type to forgive cheating. I believe that love is suppose to be a bond that is unbreakable and if you feel the desire to cheat than why not just leave the relationship. Why bother hurting someone so badly for your own satisfaction? As for the happy ending part, I have seen both sides. If they have forgiven and by some chance, began to move on, it does eventually resurface and cause trust issues.

Answer 3

i think your question was probably aimed at women, but i'll give my tuppence worth anyway.

i don't know of many instances where there's been a happy ending when someone has cheated. i've never been in that situation myself, but have experience from friends, etc.

if a guy cheats in a relationship it's usually because there's something missing in the relationship or he's with the wrong woman and doesn't have the backbone to do anything about it (better to leave her than cheat on her).

once a cheater, always a cheater ... it's a cliche but there's some truth in it. a guy who's cheated with one woman won't necessarily cheat with the next, if he finds the right woman. if he's cheated on a woman though, it's likely he'll cheat on that same woman again.

the trouble is that when someone cheats the trust is destroyed, every time the 'cheater' is away doing something else the other person is going to worry about what's going on, every time they talk to a member of the opposite sex, or mention someone's name, the person who was cheated on is going to feel insecure. that undermines and erodes the relationship.

i have to say that when i've known women to forgive a cheater it's because the woman has been weak and insecure, the guy has walked all over them and will continue to do so ... he won't respect her for forgiving him, he'll behave for a while, then he'll do it again - guaranteed!

sometimes it can take a strong woman to stay with a cheater though, not all 'forgivers' are weak. for example, in the case of a family with children, the children would usually be better off having both parents around - and so the woman puts her personal feelings aside, for the sake of her children ... often what happens is the woman becomes a ballbuster though, and keeps her husband on a tight leash, which he'll ultimately grow to resent.

it takes a very particular kind of woman to forgive a cheater and genuinely not be bothered by it. in the majority of cases the best option is to terminate the relationship and move on, as a lifetime of heartache potentially awaits otherwise.

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jeez, a kiss hardly counts as cheating.

it's not great, it's a little disloyal and i can understand why someone would be upset, but it's a world away from having sex with someone.

it's not really "cheating" in the grand scheme of things.

i wouldn't like it, but i'd get over it pretty quickly ... but that's possibly age and experience talking.

Answer 4

Nope. Left my husband the day after. There are absolutely NO excuses for cheating. Trust is GONE, love is GONE. Ask yourself, would you cheat? If the answer is no, then look at your reasons why. because obviously, this question also applies to your b/f /husband and his answer is "yes"...and therefore, the cheater has issues about commitment and his idea about love. Yes, you could go to counseling, do some reading, try working it out, etc...I did it all but I don't know anyone who's marriage/relationship worked after that...and they say 90% who try to work things out only get worse. Sorry it's not more uplifting.
Great book to read: Break free from the Affair.
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Good luck honey. It's going to be rough, but it'll make you sick wondering where he's at, what he's doing, etc. for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

There is no happy ending when it comes to cheating.
Sure you can forgive someone for hurting you, but I doubt you'll ever forget the pain its caused. Like if you had a BF that cheated on you and then went on to another relationship, youll always have it in the back of your mind.

Answer 6

My husband cheated and left me, my 7 year old daughter and my 3 month old son alone. I had such a hard time with it that I didn't see the obvious. He had met the person he wanted to be with forever and it wasn't me. Once I figured this out I moved on and 10 years later have found my soul mate.

Answer 7

Once a cheater always a cheater. I know so many people who took their boyfriend back even though they had cheated. Nothing changed, the guys continued to cheat... not heard of any happy endings im afraid.

Answer 8

As far as I'm concerned cheating is the ultimate deal breaker, and not many people truely recover.

Answer 9

i have heard of happy endings when someone has cheated. i have not experienced this but you should forgive them. you dont have to keep talking but forgive them and its one less thing you have to worry about on your concious.

Answer 10

you can forgive but never forget...in the back of your mind you will always be thinking..hhmmmm hes been gone longer then an hr...is he just late or is he messing around...your descion if you want to live life that way