Im not so sure if im ready for sex. But he says if i love him i would! Should i ?
2007-03-19 06:02:08 · 73 answers · asked by Aislynn H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really loves you he would respect the fact that you're not ready yet. Don't let him pressure you!
2007-03-19 06:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by noyb 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No!!! a Big No!!! why don't you return the question to him, if he realy loves you he can wait,. try telling him that when the right time comes you wanted it to be perfect, how sure are you that after doing it with him you'll end up with him for the rest of your life.. how sure are you that the reason why he court you is just having sex with you, what if you got pregnant is he ready or are you ready to take responsibilities, try thingking it more than ten times and imagining the worst scenario that may happen after having sex with him, so now just close your eyes take a deep breath and tell to yourself that if he loves you he can wait for the right time.
2007-03-19 06:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Cool_cat14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, that's a classic guy move to get you to have sex with him. If you don't REALLY want to do it, then you'll be all worried and stressed about it and it won't be fun. It may even be emotionally damaging to you. This is why adults always want people to wait until marriage -- you need to have a rock solid relationship and trust and real love before you have sex. If sex is an emotional thing for you, then you have to wait until you really want to and just can't wait to do it anymore. If you are the kind of person who does not attach very much emotion to it, then you can probably do it in a more casual manner and be fine. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is the second case and you are the first case. I don't recommend it!
2007-03-19 06:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, screw what your boyfriend says...he'll tell you anything to get you to have sex. The fact that you have to ask this question, shows that you're not ready. You should be 100% sure...don't let him sway your decision. Please think about this. This is a serious thing. Make sure you know what you're doing and are ready to handle any of the consequences. If he really loves you he'll wait till you're ready.
2007-03-19 06:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by onevanillakiss4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER have sex with somebody unless you're 100% ready to do so or you will regret it.
If your boyfriend is pressuring you into having it tell him to stop. If he's there to get sex and is willing to pressure you into having it, I have a feeling he won't stay long after you give it to him.
Save yourself for somebody who loves you for you and won't pressure you into losing your virginity...it's something special and you and only you can tell when you're ready to give it up. The right guy will say he loves you and mean it and won't pressure you into anything.
2007-03-19 06:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no. Only because I have heard and been in this position before. He says "If you love me then you should". Having sex isn't the only way to show love to someone. If that is his mentally, reconsider the thought. Explain to him that you're not ready. If he doesn't like that, reconsider HIM.
2007-03-19 06:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by Karma_Raynebowma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely pressuring you to do something you don't wanna do. A girl's virginity is the most important thing. I really don't think that you should have sex with him. Your first time should be with someone special.
Most guys' thoughts are only about getting laid. And for them a virgin is a big plus. I'm not saying wait till marriage, but don't blow it off on some idiot like i did.
But even if you do give up in his stupid pressuring, at least use protection.
P.S. Good Luck. But take my advice PLEASE! Don't blow it off on your first boyfriend.
2007-03-19 06:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? no normal loving guy should say that! You should tell him that if he really loves and cares for you then hed be willing to wait! Don't let anyone talk you into having sex if your not ready, you'll only regret it! Sounds like thats all he wants to be honest...
2007-03-19 06:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by kaykay 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to him when he says "if you love me you would." Thats not a very nice thing to do, he is trying to guilt you into sleeping with him. Tell him you love him (if you do) but that you need to wait until you feel like you're ready.
2007-03-19 06:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by ☭ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh, thats like a guilt trip!!! its like hes implying that unless you do it you dont love him. "if you love me, you should" baaahaa! tell him to nock it off, and when youre ready you will.
when you are ready by the way, you wont even need to ask this question. Maybe you should say that if he really loves you then he would wait (but nobody likes a hypocrite)
2007-03-19 06:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by girlvette2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when you are ready. Most men have their ideas on sex and they will try to push it but stand your ground honey cause a lot of men have some pretty speeches they try on you to fill their desires .
2007-03-19 06:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by ₦âħí»€G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋