when i am with my guy, i feel so safe and we have so much fun and great conversation, and i feel a real connection with him. but when we aren't together, half the time he won't answer his phone (says he doesn't have any minutes and he just uses the phone to see who called and says his brother doesn't have a phone), he cancelled our date this past saturday and hasn't even mentioned having one another day, and he'll say that he'll come see me before he leaves work(we work together) but sometimes won't show up just to say bye. i've tried giving him my old prepaid phone with plenty of minutes on it and he won't accept it. should i be worried? i really like him and he seems to really like me when we're together. i just don't want to be hurt again.
2007-03-19 05:56:32 · 6 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you're reading too much into it. you may just be good friends who have a good time together and not anything romantic. i'd give him space.
2007-03-19 06:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are in the midst of a real relationship then I would say he is already out the door. If you two just hung out sometimes and weren't really "together" then he figured out that you really liked him and he doesn't feel the same and is trying to put some space in there. Either way it's time to move on. If he was seriously interested then he would make an effort to see you regularly or call you. I dated a guy once in college that didn't have a phone either, he walked to town every night when he didn't get to see me and used the pay phone to call and see how I was doing. Even when the weather was crappy. That says he's interested. Not calling or stopping by the desk?...that says he's not interested.
2007-03-19 06:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's trying to be distant in an effort to get you to dump him. They do that to not face confrontation or seem like the bad guy. My advice is don't be so worried about what he is doing all the time and find other things to fill your time.
He'll appreciate you more when he feels like you're not available all the time. If he is treating you in a way that makes you feel he doesn't love you then let him know. If he doesn't make some kind of effort to change then dump him. But it sounds like you need to be a little less clingy. That's how you get hurt. You're setting yourself up for it.
Plus you already work with him. How much time do you need to spend together? You're not married!
2007-03-19 06:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically he only wants to be with you when its convenient for him. Is this how you want to be thought of? Just a convenience for someone? If he really wanted to be with you, he'd find a way. The excuses mentioned were pretty lame. And dating a co-worker is never really a good thing anyway. In the end...what do you want for you? Are you willing to settle for how you are being treated by this chump? I hope not.
2007-03-19 06:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not really interested in a real relationship. Have you slept with him? If so, I think that's all he wants.
2007-03-19 06:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
y do i sense that this guy is already attached to someone else?
2007-03-19 06:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by dovett 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋