I met this girl 7 months ago online and we have been talking ever since, via phone and email. i talk to her everyday. She is 20 and i am 21 and she is perfect for me. I pretty much love her and she says that she loves me. we are basically bf/gf only we've never met.( i know thats wierd) anyway, everytime i try to meet her she has an excuse. something comes up or her nazi parents wont let her out of the house(even though she is an adult) I've tried a million times to go see her cause she only live 5 minutes away. but she refuses to tell me where she lives. she says her parents will get mad if i come over. no matter how hard i try she just wont tell me. i dont want to stop talking to her cause she is so amazing but i cant go on forever without being with her. i need an in person relationship. what should i do?
2007-03-19 05:53:50 · 10 answers · asked by Devon A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's hiding something. There's no reason why a 20 year old person you met on the internet can't go meet you, unless she's Amish (and even then, she wouldn't have access to the internet). Typically when I see this happen it's because the female doesn't look like her picture - meaning she's larger than she appears or says she is - and she's too embarrassed to actually meet in person. I've seen that occur a LOT. If society didn't place such a stigma on larger people then this probably wouldn't be such a problem. Hope it works out for you.
2007-03-19 05:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by pokecheckme 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm Difficult situation... I have no clue what to tell you. This girl sounds a little fishy... Who knows? She could be a one-armed man in a wheelchair with bad breath. The people above me make good points. Why should you trust anything she says? That girl sounds like a ***** and maybe you are better off without her. I think you should do what your heart tells you to. If you really don't want to continue the relationship, then you should cut it off. Move on and get some prettier girl. You'll be happier that way : P
2007-03-19 15:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This 'girl' you are 'in love with' may be an 'online fake' who doesn't want to ever 'meet you in person' because she's NOT WHAT YOU THINK ... she could even be a 'guy' who is pretending to be a girl ... so if you NEED an 'in person' relationship, I think you should turn your computer OFF and go out and do some 'fun activities' where you can meet a REAL GIRL and fall in love 'naturally.' And tell this 'girl' that you think that she may not be 'as advertised' and you have been 'advised by a psychologist' to 'drop her' and never look back.
2007-03-19 13:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband became involved in one of those relationships. It turned out she was being somewhat less than honest with him on several levels. In short, she was using the chat-line as a game. He persevered for two years only discover she had a serious mental illness and was a compulsive liar. Broke his heart and ours, too, because he was so in love with her. Beware of the internet. It sounds highly suspicious that if she lives only 5 minutes away and if she loves you that she hasn't found a way to meet you in person by now.
2007-03-19 13:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by OP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its as though your dating a call center.. you think you cant go on and stuff without her only because you haven't spent much time in person with her.. once you do that, reality will set in and she might not even be all that you think she is.
its extremely important that you meet her. may be she doesn't even look the way you expected. you just have to meet her or tell her it cant go on like this. if there is a will there is a way.she is just putting off meeting you. not like she just cant.
2007-03-19 13:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u sure she loves u??? and ru sure ur the "only guy" in her life. Maybe she has a bf, cuz its hard 2believe that her parents dont aloud her 2go out in the age of 20. So...
2007-03-19 13:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dude. This girl is either much different physically than she's told you she is, or she's married. Cut off the relationship. It is a fantasy. Just a fantasy! She is stringing you along and till she can show herself, you've got nothing with her but a fantasy.
2007-03-19 13:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something fishy going on here. Tell her if you can't meet, you are moving on. I have a feeling you are better off without her.
2007-03-19 13:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHE...sounds like a HE.. and is prob. 47 years old lookin for some young boy to have fun with...
2007-03-19 13:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by nalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she loves you? are you sure that she isn't hiding something? maybe she is hiding that her partner is a guy and maybe she is married to him or ingaged., i think it would be best if you stopped talking to her.
2007-03-19 13:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by lildevil p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋