His grandma hates the Idea! And I have heard alot of Stuff about me Since I moved in with him. Some People told me When I moved in with him that we Would never Get Married B/c He has me now! Is it Wrong Or is People starting stuff to break us Up???? We have been together 2 years and hes 24 and im 20 so Why are they Starting Rumors about me?!!!!!!
2007-03-19 05:52:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was engaged to be married (but he was still my boyfriend) for two years. We moved in together a week after he asked me to marry him.
We got married a little more than two years after he asked me, so we lived together for more than two years.
We have been married for 13 years now, and going strong. Just had a renewal of vows ceremony. It was great.
2007-03-19 05:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lived with my boyfriend/fiance for 9 years. Overall, I've been with him for 13 years (yes, I'm still young--in my 20s). We plan on getting married, but we have not set a date or anything. To us, marriage is just a word and a legal documents, so we're not rushing off to spend the big bucks right away, if you know what I mean.
I think living together before marriage is good and healthy for you. You get to learn more about how marriage is before going through all of the money and planning that's involved with a wedding. Kind of a taste test. You may learn you will not be able to stand living with this guy, or you might learn more and more about your best friend, like I have.
As to if people "is" trying to break you up, well I don't know their intentions. I'd say just live your life and forget about what other people are saying about you.
2007-03-19 13:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to see others fail it is just a fact. So what if you aren't married I have been living with my b/f for 6 years now and we got engaged about a year ago. So you should tell grandma that this is the year 2007 and things aren't the same anymore. Living with someone gets you ready for what it would really be like if you where married so Good Luck :D
2007-03-19 13:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Petronia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what "they"say? if you love him and he loves you....
I was married previously, did not live with the guy first and we were divorced after 1 year. My second guy, I lived with for 5 years before we even discussed marriage. The problem people have with two people living together before marriage is the dumbest thing I have ever heard of. You have to know if you can wake up with the other person in the morning. You find out alot of things about a person living with them that you would not necessarily find out about until after the marriage (or after it's too late!). I have been with the guy I lived with first before I married him for 10 years now, and I love him the same, if not more, than I did when I first met him. I am preggers with our first child right now and I told my husband that I will tell our child that they MUST live with their boy/girl friend for a couple years before I will "bless" the marriage. You do your thing with your boyfriend and don't worry about anyone else....in the end, it's gonna be the two of you in it together.....good luck, and you are doing the right thing! p.s. do NOT rush into marriage...wait until you are ready to breed. There will be a sense of loss of independence when you get married.
2007-03-19 13:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with moving in with your boyfriend before marriage, in fact if more people did that, it might lower the divorce rate because you really get to know someone when you live with them. As for the rumors why don't you sit down with your boyfriend's family (or whoever is saying them) and confront them in a calm manner to see if you can work this out.
2007-03-19 12:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dear Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the whole "rumor" thing but I moved in with my now ex-bf and it killed our relationship. We were together a year and a half before we lived together. I am not saying it will kill yours but living together has a way if doing that.
Good luck and the best advice I can give you is to not spend every available moment together. Have your own lives, or else you will burn out on each other.
2007-03-19 13:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my Fiance before we got engaged. I actually recommend it. How else are you supposed to know that you can function as a couple under the same roof? There is a lot to learn about living with someone. Does he like the heat up or down? Is he a neat freak or a total slob? Does he pay his bills regularly and on time or is he getting shut off notices twice a month? Can you live with these things? Honestly I think these are valid reasons to live with someone. Now as for people talking about you, forget them. Act like an adult and keep your business to yourself. Let them talk, really who cares? If you two are happy and making it work then no one will be breaking you up.
2007-03-19 12:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people can learn a lot about each other living together before marriage. But it does not mean anything. My parents are 47 and have been toghther since they were 16. They have always lived together and never got married.
2007-03-19 12:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that back in the days when she was young they did things that way. Now a days we live with the person, move out and do it again....
I have been talked about but I guess i don't care cause i am still with him and he's going to be with me and can't no one stop me from making my own choices. Does she pay his bills? Girl don't worry about it seriously until she pays some thing in that apartment of his...then she has a say so on who lives in there until then don't worry people talk...but can't do anything about it!
2007-03-19 12:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
older people are stuck in the older ways of no sex before marriage and no living together til after the wedding day.
rumors are their way of entertaining themselves.
i live with my bf at the moment and we aren't married but i'm sure it's gonna happen... my mom lived with her bf for 2 years or so and they just now got engaged over xmas.
everyone has their own way of doing things and if you're happy doing what you're doing then don't let people talking stop it.
i've lived with 2 of my ex bf's and they worked out fine... we didn't break up because we lived together but because of other stuff.
i live with my bf now and it's great... just because you're living together doesn't mean you still won't get married.
best of luck
2007-03-19 12:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Back*To*Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋