Living with my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend and me are going to be living together in a few months. Do you have any advice for me or any comments?

Answer 1

Before living with another person make sure that you can afford the expenses independently. This way if you have the misfortune of breaking up or one person becomes unable to work, the other can assume the responsibility of the home and utilities.

Also try to set up some ground rules with regards to respect for each others space as well as the household duties. Living with another person isn't all fun and games. It is a major life change, and realize that you will need alone time, as will he. Make sure you are willing to accommodate that.

Finally before you even consider make sure you know the person, if you have not been in a serious relationship for quite some time living together is a bad idea. Unless you have firm future plans you are not ready to live together.

Do not combine finances or take on joint debt or purchases until you are married. There are rarely ever laws which pertain to division of assets when people are not married. So if you do break up there is no guarantee you will be able to recover your losses, property of finances.

Answer 2

i will tell you one thing you truly get to know someone when you live together so think carefully before you make a final decision because once you live together it makes things much more complicated. but on the same note living together can also build a stronger relationship and in the long run can help if you two decide to take the next step with marriage because you will already know what to expect, the first few months will be hard because you will be getting used to the way the other person is but if you can work together it will make you stronger in the end

Answer 3

Yes! Many studies have shown that the first few months, develop the routines of the relationship. As women we tend to nurture, BUT don't go so far as to do all the chores around your new place. Begin splitting tasks 50/50 immediately. Also try to pay for everything 50/50 and it will cause less arguments about money.

Good luck!

Answer 4

ive been living w/my bf for 3 years now. and everything is going great- ya we have our differences but youll always have them. its a matter of how you solve them. Suggestions-
make sure that your ready and willing to take the "next" step cuz youll see and do many things that that other person hasnt seen yet and vise versa.
pick your battles if you want it to last...
and make sure that you still go out with your friends and dont expect him to stay home 24/7 w/u.
remember he's still his own person even though you live together.
Make sure when it comes to house work its divided up evenly for the most part.
plus id make sure you were set on the financial side cuz you dont want to end up alone without being able to afford it.. or end up paying for everything cuz he doesnt want to fork up any money.

And just have fun-make ever moment enjoyable - im sure you both would'nt be moving in w/each other if you didnt care about one another- Good Luck!

Answer 5

at first it will seem like fun. Like playing house. he might leave his stuff everywhere and you dont mind picking it up- anyways that phase goes away and after a few months you both will settle into things and it wont feel like playing house- so just be prepared for that- it's not always easy.. especially beacuse when you date someone- no matter how much time you spend together you DO NOT get to know them as intimately as you do living with them and you may find things that annoy you about them

Answer 6

if you two think you can pull it off then go for it.

i live with my bf and sometimes it gets hectic but it's still worth it... and remember if you guys get in a fight... you can't just go home.

make sure to not become engulfed in one another.

have a girl's night out and a guy's night out on a set day every week. my bf and i do our own things on fridays and then saturday's we go to the bar together.

we are practically married so that helps a bit and we've been living with each other since before we started dating... we were roommates to begin with.

good luck with everything and if you need more advice email me...

Answer 7

the first year is going to be hard because you both are going jet mad because of each others bad habits like leaving forgetting to do chores and him leaving the seat up all so don,t boss each other around, and your guys ned to pick chorse, who is better at what job.

Answer 8

it he really loves you, and how long you known him, because you probably know the good things about him but how about the bad habits he has, anyway, the first days are owesome

Answer 9

Yes. Don't do it. Wait for a greater commitment, like marriage.

Answer 10

praktice safe stuff!!!! since this is gonna be new to u guys believe me u dnt want any surprices!!!