I borrowed 20grand from my (now)fiance about 6 months ago so that I could buy a vehicle and not have ridiculous interest rates. I have been making payments to him every month, but we recently got engaged and I am wondering if I should say something to him about whether or not I need to keep paying him back.
2007-03-19 05:29:08 · 19 answers · asked by h_nanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep paying him back-
he will let you know when you dont owe him anymore.
2007-03-19 05:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you need to 'talk over' with him. I'm guessing that he 'loaned you' the $20,000 because he 'loved you' but wanted to be 'paid back' to show that you are 'financially responsible.' If you were getting married tomorrow, then I'd say that it wasn't 'necessary' for you to continue to 'pay him back' but if you are just 'engaged' then it could be very important that you do continue ... if you 'stop paying him' because you are 'engaged' it may mean that you are not as 'financially responsible' as he'd like ... so have a 'long talk' with him about this 'money' ... maybe the two of you could get a 'joint bank account' and both start 'paying money into that' (including the 'payments' you are making to him for the 'loan') and can decide now how to 'spend' that amount and on what after you are married ...
2007-03-19 05:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep paying till you are married. Once you are married, you should get JOINT everything. Once you have joint accts, its not going to matter if you pay him back. But DEF keep paying till you are married because if the whole thing falls apart before the wedding, at least you will have some of it already paid off instead of ONE LUMP SOME in debt to him. Plus till you are his wife, you still technically owe him that money.
2007-03-19 05:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should continue to pay him back. He does not need you to throw this bill back at him. He trusted you enough to loan you the money then you should be honest enough to pay him back. Unless of course, he tells you that you do not need to pay him back then get that in writing.
2007-03-19 05:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would =), and I say this because I did and it was the appropriate thing to do. I borrowed $200 off of him before we were engaged (and paid him off after we got engaged....
2007-03-19 05:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. It is just the responsible thing to do.
Once you're married though, you shouldn't owe him, but you should put both of your names on the car title.
One other option is a joint account, where you put money you would normally pay him. Just a thought.
2007-03-19 08:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU NEED TO PAY HIM BACK. JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE ENGAGED DOSENT MEAN THAT YOU DONT HAVE TO PAY HIM BACK. IT WAS A LOAN! WHAT IF YOU DONT GET MARRIED? I BET YOU WILL BE ONE OF THOSE GIRLS WHO GO TO COURT AND TELL THE JUDGE THAT IT WAS A GIFT. HE DID YOU A FAVOR BY LENDING YOU THE MONEY. THE RIGHT THING TO DO IS PAY IT BACK!
2007-03-19 05:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ LINDA ♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you and he need to work out. If you're getting married, won't all of your finances be combined anyway?
But, until you're actually married, it probably makes sense to continue to pay him back. It's important in any relationship to take nothing or no one for granted.
2007-03-19 05:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not so sure he should require you to pay him back. When he marries you he will have an interest in the asset that you bought with the money. It seems like he should now let your obligation go.
2007-03-19 05:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should keep paying him back no matter what. just because you got engaged doesn't mean he erased all your debts.
keep paying him and wait until HE says you dont have to pay him back anymore. that looks really bad for you to ask him about it.
2007-03-19 05:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bex 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep paying him back. You don't need a dark cloud over your marriage. Couples usually fight over sex or money. And 20,000 bucks is a large amount of money.
2007-03-19 05:35:17 · answer #11 · answered by shere143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋