I broke it off with my bf on sat. morning b/c he isn't enjoying school and will move back home in two months. Instead of waiting, i did it now so that it would hurt less for both of us. I still love him and want to be with him but he just doesn't know what he wants. so, i wanted to give him the space he needed to find out what he wants. Should i even consider a long-dist. relationship? as in two hours apart....
FYI..We have been friends for about 1yr. and half and dated for about 3 mths.
2007-03-19 05:21:35 · 11 answers · asked by mrspres01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are just kids, and to expect a long term relationship at your age is somewhat unrealistic. Finish your schooling, finish college, qualify for a good job, and internalize the things my mom told me when I was your age....
1. The most important decision you well ever make is in the choice of a husband. Choose well
2. Make me a mother in law before you make me a grandmother.
3. Don't have any children until your marriage is rock solid, and don't have any more than you yourself can easily support. Marriage is not a life-long meal ticket. You will likely work sometime during your marriage, perhaps even for decades. Get paid for it.
4. Love cures nothing. Have a stash of cash that no one knows about, even if you think you will never need it. You will, and the more the better.
Thank you mom for that conversation when I was a teen. I love you for that, and my life is wonderful because of your wise words...
Hope this helps hon. Get your head out of the clouds, and become protective of your future.... Good luck
2007-03-19 05:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya totally consider it. If he is confused about what he wants, it actually may not be a good idea because you must fully trust each other when you do a long distance thing. Because you nor him actually know whats going on when you arn't around or talking to each other. I am actually in a long distance relationship because I unexpectedly had to move because of a death in the family. I had been dating my bf for for a year and known him all my life. The long distance relationship is working between us because we trust eachother and have fully committed ourselves to each other, and seeing each other as often as we can. So consider the trust, and consider how much you like each other, and what kind of a relationship you actually want, future and present.
2007-03-19 12:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I broke up with a guy a long time ago for the exact same reason and did it sooner rather than later so it wouldn't hurt as much also!!
I think if you really like the guy, you should atleast try a long distance relationship. It's worth a shot. It's better than knowing WHAT-IF...
And if someone else comes along, then someone else comes along.
2007-03-19 12:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you're willing to make some sacrifice such as not seeing him or having any contact with him. I'm in a long distance relationship only it's only 50 miles. But with his work schedule and mine we hardly get to communicate. For me that's the hardest, but I believe he is being faithful to me. That's another thing in a long distance relationship: will you and can you trust the person not to cheat??
2007-03-19 12:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by stoutunicorn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU said it, continue to give him his space to allow him to make his decision. When you move its like starting a new life, you meet new friends, new women, new everything. If he decides to move allow him to have a new beginning, not the stressful baggage of a long distance relationship.
2007-03-19 12:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that long distance relationships work, it just a matter if you trust him or not. But girls and guys have different needs and if one of them ain't there to support them then they'll find someone else to do it for them.
2007-03-19 12:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating long distance kind've puts your life on hold. You might meet Mr. Right when your b/f is gone and your heart will be with your b/f. I think you did the right thing.
2007-03-19 12:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know... my opinion, there are just too many things that could happpen or go wrong in a long distance realtionship. its just abit too much for me but you really just gotta think about it if you can handle it or not. if you need someone to talk to im here just message me on yahoo.
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2007-03-19 12:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by nick m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long-distance DOES work. but dont approach him 4 a month or so in a romantic way.
2007-03-19 12:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-19 12:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋